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What is her issue with me?

Me and this girl got really close over these past six months. We work together at a small part time job so I have known of her for the past year and... Show More

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  • Do move on. You treated her respectfully, kindly, and selflessly. Once she felt insecure a tiny bit, she started showing her true colors. She doesn't have any problem with you, no matter what she says. She's just insecure and needy. She liked the emotional support and the self sacrifice you gave her. But for it to work she needs to sacrifice her selfishness, too, and she's not ready to do that.

    Don't blame yourself. You truly didn't do anything terrible to her, but she does want to manipulate you for attention, devotion, and affection. So don't give those to her. Treat her as respectfully as you always have and continue to be kind and wise about interacting with her. But don't pursue her. You've already done that and she let you know that she'll only accept you as long as she can control you. A healthy relationship needs two people willing to give themselves and display honesty, caring, and selflessness. In this situation there's only one of you.

    She will make your life more miserable if she suspects she's lost total control of you, and she may come crawling back with what seems like a sweet innocent girl. But it won't last because that's not all of her. Do both of you a favor and find someone who is mature and who will treat you with the respect you must have a good relationship.

    • When I did get mad I sad somethings that werent intentionally to be mean but were interrpreted that way. I found out later that what I said made her very upset and cry. I saw a picture of her and her friends and you could see the makeup running down her cheeks. I can agree with the insecurity and needy part. She was there most of the time for me when I needed it. And I wasn't always there for her, I purposely did it to prevent an open neediness when all I wanted was to be there.

    • I wasn't always the nicest back to her either. Most of the time I did it jokingly but she could have interpreted another way. I feel if I make an effort to include her into my life than the ball would be fully in her court. And she has lost control of me and she hasn't made an attempt to get me back. I think she just acts mean and careless cause she has been hurt before by a lot of people. I've seen her sweet side plenty of times too.

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  • She seems like she playing with your feelings and mind, I would say

    Move on and ignore her, she seems like the type who's desperate

    For attention!

    • Sometimes I get that feeling and other times I dont. I feel that her attitude towards me changes depending on the situation. Very well could be mind games and if she did then she got her cousin and best friend to do it as well. They both hinted at the two of us together but it went over my head. Trust me all along I thought she was just playing me so that's why I allowed her to intiate almost all the contact. Cause I thought if she goes through with all of this then she has to like me.

    • For reasons I can't explain I rarely ever intiated things and when I did I would get a very excited yes. Her last relationship went through work as well, so I now understand why she said those things. Cause still till this day the dirt gets brought back up, and my coworkers are mean and cruel. She was a different girl when we were alone together. And she is a leo so of course she likes to be at the center of attention and I didn't always fall into her stupid mind games almost lifeless.

  • Hey, you know what your idea sounds better than mine..thats a great idea that's probably what she's needs.. :-) good job see you didn't really need my help... ;-). You know her and you know what she needs...give her some attention positive attention, but I would still let her know what's really good tho eventually, just so she don't take your kindness for weakness in the future you know...but you know when the time is right for that so no rush..just start off slow big hug and kiss for now works.

    • Ill pass on the kiss since it would be the first and it will be at work and we don't need any more rumors spread around

  • She likes you and fustrated about your non reciprocating feelings...

    • "non reciprocating feelings" are you saying this b.c he didn't go any further into the relationship or friendship w/e you want to call it? If that was the case couldn't she bring it up herself rather then do a complete 180

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    • If I was you, I would take a more aggressive approach..the only thing I would text her is where you want her to meet you and at what time...and I would tell her everything face to face.. And I would tell her about her trying to make me jealous and etc.. And just throw in how you are jealous a little good for her ego ;-). But I would definitely take a "im not playing this game with you anymore" approach..either sge comes on board or not, and your willing to let this whole thing go...

    • Oh she already knows I'm jealous, showed it a lot and I meant the next time I see her at work away from the crowd. It might sound childish but give her a nice big hug and say I miss you. Then invite her to do something. In my opinion in the past where I showed interest I got a lot better response than saying it. I get rather emotional and I feel if I said something I will come off really desperate and ruin it all.

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