I was just curious why this has happenned to me twice?
My first boyfriend used to say the sweetest thing when we first started going out. It felt like heaven! And then 10 months later, he left me. He just said he does not think he was making me happy (which was sort of true), and balancing me and work was getting too stressful for him. He genuinely cried and seemed sad about it. But never gave me any solid, concrete reason we could not work out. 3 years later and he still texts me as a friend though..which is nice.
The second boyfriend pursued me for months! We used to be really good friends. We started dating and he used to act like he was falling more and more in love. All of a sudden, at the 8 month mark, he got really busy (I know this for a fact because we wok together), and he started to get really stressed out and pull away. He said he was finding the relationship to be too much commitment, and he wasn't ready for it. I know he still missed me and was confused, because every few weeks, we would talk about it. But now he is completely over me.
Is it me that gets less interesting at the 8-10 month mark? Or is it the boys that are not ready for a real serious relationship? They were both 23-25 years old, and very career driven! Do they just get bored after the sleep with a girl and want something new?
I feel like I am very cute, and sweet and understanding to them. I don't ask for materialistic things or push them to meet the family or anything. I am finishing grad school in bio this year, so I am very smart and have lots of opinions and insights. I am physically very open in the bedroom. And I always bake lots of cupcakes for them! lol.
When I look deep down, I don't think its me. But maybe I'm wrong?
Has this happenned to other girls? And boys, why do you act so in love in the first 6 months, and then get stressed out and leave?
My first boyfriend used to say the sweetest thing when we first started going out. It felt like heaven! And then 10 months later, he left me. He just said he does not think he was making me happy (which was sort of true), and balancing me and work was getting too stressful for him. He genuinely cried and seemed sad about it. But never gave me any solid, concrete reason we could not work out. 3 years later and he still texts me as a friend though..which is nice.
The second boyfriend pursued me for months! We used to be really good friends. We started dating and he used to act like he was falling more and more in love. All of a sudden, at the 8 month mark, he got really busy (I know this for a fact because we wok together), and he started to get really stressed out and pull away. He said he was finding the relationship to be too much commitment, and he wasn't ready for it. I know he still missed me and was confused, because every few weeks, we would talk about it. But now he is completely over me.
Is it me that gets less interesting at the 8-10 month mark? Or is it the boys that are not ready for a real serious relationship? They were both 23-25 years old, and very career driven! Do they just get bored after the sleep with a girl and want something new?
I feel like I am very cute, and sweet and understanding to them. I don't ask for materialistic things or push them to meet the family or anything. I am finishing grad school in bio this year, so I am very smart and have lots of opinions and insights. I am physically very open in the bedroom. And I always bake lots of cupcakes for them! lol.
When I look deep down, I don't think its me. But maybe I'm wrong?
Has this happenned to other girls? And boys, why do you act so in love in the first 6 months, and then get stressed out and leave?
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