Me and my boyfriend live together and work together.
We met at film school one year and 8 months ago and he approached me and we started dating. He went full force, ignoring his friends, giving all his time to me, the usual etc.
After 2 months of bliss, we spend the next 10 months working day and night on a film. Sometime during here, he suggested we move in together. I was really shocked but really liked him and could see he felt the same.
We watched a few films in the odd evening here and there and went out to eat every couple of months (1-2 times every 3 months).
Then when we finally had a 8 day Xmas break, I was looking forward to spending quality time with him, it was going to be the first holidays with him since we met, but he had already planned what he was going to do for the first 5 days, plans without me. I got upset because I had been patient all year and thought he was looking forward to relaxing with me, but his plans were to catch up with everyone else then take me out somewhere. I asked why couldn't he hang out with me for 2-3 days first and enjoy going to new places and then see his friends later, I felt like I was last priority. Our schedule for the year was seriously work all day on set (where we hardly saw each other because of our different crew roles) then get home where he would play COD (call of Duty) till 11pm then he would go straight to bed. Then we'd wake up early and do it all again.
That took place a year ago. Now, it's been another 3 months and again we worked our arses off more than we have ever in our life, with literally 4-5 hours sleep and no free time to even cook or relax for 10 minutes. We have finally finished last week with no huge plans ahead of us.
I suggested we go to the park, we sat there on the grass, it was a nice breezy evening but oh yeah...i forgot to mention, he can't ever stop checking his phone and Facebook for more than 2 minutes, and I am serious, he has issues. Anyway, in the park he kept checking his phone and wanted to go after 10 minutes. All he ever wants to do is talk about work. When I bring up our future, he says that he hasn't really thought about it, he's not the marrying kind, it's just a piece of paper, but if I wanted to, then he would marry me, to which I was shocked and asked 'how could you not want to get married'.
Bottom line, we never spend time together, he only plays COD and is on Facebook all the time, even if nothing is happening, I can't watch a movie with him because I look over and there he is checking his phone 15 times during a movie, it's frustrating. I can't talk to him during the day, as he always ignores me and I look up to see he is checking his phone, it's getting ridiculous, he's texting/emailing other people who he doesn't even care about, he doesn't seem that keen on a future with me (I assume as he doesn't give it thought but gives his career a lot of thought), he says he loves me but his actions say otherwise. HELP!
We met at film school one year and 8 months ago and he approached me and we started dating. He went full force, ignoring his friends, giving all his time to me, the usual etc.
After 2 months of bliss, we spend the next 10 months working day and night on a film. Sometime during here, he suggested we move in together. I was really shocked but really liked him and could see he felt the same.
We watched a few films in the odd evening here and there and went out to eat every couple of months (1-2 times every 3 months).
Then when we finally had a 8 day Xmas break, I was looking forward to spending quality time with him, it was going to be the first holidays with him since we met, but he had already planned what he was going to do for the first 5 days, plans without me. I got upset because I had been patient all year and thought he was looking forward to relaxing with me, but his plans were to catch up with everyone else then take me out somewhere. I asked why couldn't he hang out with me for 2-3 days first and enjoy going to new places and then see his friends later, I felt like I was last priority. Our schedule for the year was seriously work all day on set (where we hardly saw each other because of our different crew roles) then get home where he would play COD (call of Duty) till 11pm then he would go straight to bed. Then we'd wake up early and do it all again.
That took place a year ago. Now, it's been another 3 months and again we worked our arses off more than we have ever in our life, with literally 4-5 hours sleep and no free time to even cook or relax for 10 minutes. We have finally finished last week with no huge plans ahead of us.
I suggested we go to the park, we sat there on the grass, it was a nice breezy evening but oh yeah...i forgot to mention, he can't ever stop checking his phone and Facebook for more than 2 minutes, and I am serious, he has issues. Anyway, in the park he kept checking his phone and wanted to go after 10 minutes. All he ever wants to do is talk about work. When I bring up our future, he says that he hasn't really thought about it, he's not the marrying kind, it's just a piece of paper, but if I wanted to, then he would marry me, to which I was shocked and asked 'how could you not want to get married'.
Bottom line, we never spend time together, he only plays COD and is on Facebook all the time, even if nothing is happening, I can't watch a movie with him because I look over and there he is checking his phone 15 times during a movie, it's frustrating. I can't talk to him during the day, as he always ignores me and I look up to see he is checking his phone, it's getting ridiculous, he's texting/emailing other people who he doesn't even care about, he doesn't seem that keen on a future with me (I assume as he doesn't give it thought but gives his career a lot of thought), he says he loves me but his actions say otherwise. HELP!
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