Although women say they want a guy who is open, sensitive, and shows his feelings, it is always a bad idea to show a girl any weaknesses you may have. Yes, it will kill any chance you may have with her. Why? Because she will then put you into the "friends" category. Once a guy is in the dreaded friends category it is almost always impossible to move into the "potential lover" category.
Women adore strength and abhor weakness, not only in men but in themselves as well. Women are hardwired to look for a strong protector and provider. They won't find that in a weak man and keep looking elsewhere.
Never show weakness.
Interesting question. Most of the girls that I know actually like it when a guy reveals themselves to be real people with real emotions and real problems. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that girls don't like it when a guy comes across as being unemotional, hard, and aloof. I don't, however, think that you should use a girl as your emotional baggage dumping ground. Generally, however, they do want to see that you do have emotions (not that you are dominated by emotional outbursts) but that you are at least strong enough to hold them and yourself securely when the need comes (such as when she's emotional.)
If it's just a girl you like then I would go into too much detail. She doesn't know you well enough to understand your situation or how you really feel about it. She might think your "whiney" if you just go off on a list of probs you have.
IF you were in a relationship it would be different, because we like being able to communicate. It may lower your chances of getting because yes, it may reduce the relationship to "friends", but I have found that with time, I tend to start to like my good guy friends for some reason.
It depends on the kind of relationship you two have, if you know each other for longer period and are pretty close it is good, because knowing each other's flaws is good basis for building intimacy between two people.
If you haven't spend much time together, it depends also on the kind of stuff you are incapable of doing, like if you are not able to some simple stuff then this is a turn off. But if it's nothing major then she might find it cute.
I think it would make her or even me feel more comfortable around you and even to talk to you. Telling a girl your problems doesn't mean anything, why don't you turn it around how would you feel telling one of your guys friends? It really just shows a softer and more compassionate side of you.
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Sharing frustrations and confiding your feelings to her will usually be received well. Don't make yourself seem hopeless or that you are giving up. No one likes to constantly console someone who can't or won't take actions to improve their situations.
Just show that you are able to isolate and notice when problems arise in your life, and that you are thinking about ways to remedy them, or seeking advice of how to remedy them.
Having emotions = ok
Appearing helpless = not ok
No. No. No. No no. No. And no.
Ok, if you've been dating a few months, then some are bound to come out. That might be ok.
I'd even say that showing weakness to certain so called friends is a really bad idea. Others are ok. You have the fun time of figuring out which friends are trustworthy enough for your guard to be down.
Otherwise, no.
No - absolutely never, ever open up about your insecurities or problems to a girl you like!
If the incapability is insignificant then it doesn't need to be brought up. Bottom line my friend is that women are like snarling animals in the wild - if you show weakness, they'll devour you and then complain to each other about the lack of good or nice guys.
A much better plan is to join the jackass club and tell the girl you like what her problems are.
I think it's interesting that the women are mostly saying it's okay and the men are mostly saying no. I think that's because the girls are thinking about it instead of looking at it emotionally [which is how they'll actually respond] whereas the guys are recalling their experiences.
As Fitzgerald noted, there may be no greater difference in people than that between the healthy and the sick. Showing weakness makes you appear sick, lame, and/or weak in a woman's eyes.
It's good to tell her what's going on with you as long as you don't kill it she's not your psychiatrist but it also depends on your relationship with the girl if you just met obviously you shouldn't but you being able to tell her your problems will only bring you guys closer
Not for me, I hate it when guys try to be so tough and act like they never cry. It would be completely fine for me if a guy told me his problems.
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