I guess I just assumed that he would understand that his female roommate is "off-limits" because I'm his ROOMMATE. Now I feel stupid for not setting him straight on the issue before he moved in. It took me a while to realize that he's an idealistic, oblivious guy who doesn't immediately take no for an answer. A few weeks ago, he told me it was his New Year's resolution to find a girlfriend. I told him he could have his pick of local girls, and he told me that he wanted a non-Asian, hard-to-get girlfriend. There aren't many non-Asian girls here and he doesn't get out much. So who could that mean, hmm? Later in the conversation, I told him I was very happy being single and then changed the subject. New Years was also really weird. We were supposed to meet up with a few of his friends, but then he purposefully avoided them. Never going out on the town with him again. Shame on me for assuming it would be okay. It feels like he's romanticizing our roommate situation, and I'm really starting to resent his awkward behavior around me. Home is the one place where I can retreat into my American bubble and let my guard down. I feel like I can't even talk to him without encouraging this puppy-love crush. And then I feel like a heartless bitch for feeling so resentful.
Recently, I've been spending as little time with the guy as I can. Not talking about our weird Asia experiences or going on foreign food expeditions together. Watching a movie at home or sharing an occasional meal are also out. I try to be polite and semi-friendly. Hopefully he'll get over this crush and stop the giggling. Confronting him about it would be super-awkward since he's fairly shy and inarticulate anyway. Any other suggestions? Maybe I can introduce him to a nice girl, eh? And hey, if all else fails, I'm the one on the lease, so I have final say on who lives here.
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