One thing I find myself doing a lot is overanalyzing txts, facebook messages, and overcourse snapchats. This Destroys me!
The thing that hurts me the most is when someone replies too quickly or not fast enough. Are they ignoring me? Are they interested in me? Yet guess what? it probably means nothing. At least 90% of the time, a friend simply forgot to message me back or they missed my text because it didn't pop on their notifications page. Maybe they thought they sent the message and they didn't. The point is that usually the timing of everything means nothing...
Now, I don't have an Iphone so I can't see that someone read my message and didn't reply. This is a good thing for me and my anxiety. Especially when I worry about their response time. However, on Snapchat I can see this.
When someone doesn't reply to my snap I wonder why? You clearly saw my picture, respond! The thing is, that snaps work differently from messages.
For one, they disappear. Half the time, I can't even remember my previous snap when someone snaps me back. Was it just a picture? Did I send a message? The thing though is that this is the exact reason why I shouldn't be concerned about getting a response. SNAPS DON"T WORK LIKE A MESSAGING SYSYEM!!!!
Sure, if you respond quickly to someone and they respond back, you can have a conversation. However, this isn't always possible. As such, if someone doesn't snap back, its because they don't see the snap as a conversation. Therefore it doesn't need a reply.
This same thought process also shows how we perceive snaps. When I get a snap from a friend, I usually glance at it, smile, and then send a stupid photo back. I'm not thinking about what I'm sending, nor am I thinking about what I'm sending back. To other people who don't reply, my snap is nothing more than a "Hey, look what I'm up to!" Its a statement that doesn't require a response.
As such, we need to not concern ourselves with snaps and how fast someone is reponsing (or if they are responding at all). Snaps are different than txts. We act differently with them and as such, there is no point worrying about them.
So I say, to everyone (but more importantly myself). CHILL OUT! Snaps are fun and they connect people together. However, they are not a form of messaging and they should not be overanalyzed.
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You're problem isn't anxiety, but (anti-) social media itself.
Just delete all your accounts! If you spend all your time doing stuff that is healthy to you personally like cooking a good meal, walking to places, reading a book in the park, studying something you're interested in... stuff people would normally do without (anti-) social media, then all your mental issues will fade away. Promised.
Oh I hear you on that one. I wanted to focus more on snaps specifically though
I don't like snap chat. I tried it out because I was curious one time but I deleted it straightaway