The more things change...the more they're the same

One thing most of us can agree on is that girls won't listen to guys..or for that matter, even their own family...about whom they should go out with in the United States.

This isn't universal; in many if not most other cultures family and friends are respected in this regard.

But here, whether my father's generation, mine, or the current teenagers, it's nearly always a waste of breath.

Most of us learn this the hard way, since when young we think that if we KNOW from our own experience a guy is bad news for a girl, they will at least give us a hearing about it.

Not only are we ignored, but even AFTER we are PROVEN right, we aren't usually given credit. The girl may be mad at the guy, but I've yet to see or hear the girl acknowledge that I (or any other guy) was right about their warnings. Not once, ever, and I've seen the warnings turn out to be accurate many times. Not just MY personal warnings, but those of my friends, the girl's family and friends...

It took me years to realize that most girls only care about whether the guy is 'cool', which is 98% based on whether he has money...and if he turns out to be abusive, well, for most girls that's just business. They aren't going to 'learn' from it, they aren' going to listen to warnings, they're not going to be at all grateful or rueful after the fact. In fact, even when you turn out to be right about the guy, they still resent YOU for having pointed it out!

Sometimes they're more angry with the person trying to warn them off, even after the fact, than they EVER get with a guy who's downright abusive.

This is why women in the US don't really get sincere respect. Laws may require us to let them have their way, they may get half the promotions and perks at work, etc., but the fact they don't have only respect power, at root...

That may get them success in the corporate world, but it won't get them respect, not even there. And outside that world, they'll be looked at as bimbos, no matter what the title they have on their office door...