Black girls?

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Dude...I’ve never seen such an ethnic and naturally beautiful culture in my life …..I love black girls there hips,  hair every single thing about them and their brown skin, but I have never dated a black girl but I'm pretty sure I will marry one!…..how do you guys feel am I alone and what do you love the most about them….?

jdcpa · Accepted Answer

First of all,

Here is the theory behind "inter-racial" couples

Sexuality is a matter of identity. We identify ourselves by both who we are, and how we behave. As such, we don't have much choice when it comes to who we are. You're born with either a penis or vagina, black, tan or white, etc. We do have a great deal of choice in behaviors. We can choose what behaviors we accept & reject for ourselves. Masculinity & femininity as defined by society.

Heterosexual people, deeply cultivate these differences in their own sexuality, and seek the (hetero) opposite in their sexual partners. A dominant seeks a submissive. A submissive seeks a dominant. Masculinity seeks the caring loving warmth & softness of femininity. Femininity seeks the safety, protection, power, strength and hardness of masculinity.

For heterosexual sexualities, contrast is what they seek. And in the case of inter-racial couples, contrast is exactly what they find. This contrast in their sexual partner that they're naturally seeking is magnified; and so they see these sharp differences as sexy.

To answer your question, no, you're definitely not alone.

There are plenty of white guys who find black girls beautiful and sexy, and more feminine & womanly than white women. BUT! Most won't admit it. And even the ones that will admit it, would seldom pursue it. Why? Because unfortunately, it's not as simple as (I like you, I'm with you). Family & friends factor in. Work factors in. And the truth is, a black woman dating a white guy doesn't have the same social stigma attached to it as a white guy dating a black girl.

I've dated a black girl. I tried giving it a chance. But what ruined an otherwise perfect relationship with an otherwise perfect girl, was a tsunami of social pressure & judgments.

My friends & family thought that because she was black:

- She was ghetto

- She was poor

- She wasn't doing anything with her life

- She was just after my money

- She was dirty (STD or 500+ notches on her bedpost)

All of which weren't true. She looked like a smaller version of Noemie Lenoir

To me, she was adorable & cute, which does more for me personally than hot or sexy. She wanted sex all the time, so it's not like I had to worry about her ever not being in the mood. She was emotionally mature, composed, chill, relaxed. Handled conflict really well. Communication & understanding was perfect. She cared about me & loved me. And she was going for her MBA. But social pressure doesn't give it a chance.. that's why..

TheLoveBunny · Accepted Answer

Alright man I totaly agree with how you feel about black females and I'm kinda in the same situation your in with the friend thing. Me and my friend shoo shoo is what she tells me to call her we have been friends since the 8th grade and we graduated with each other this year and my feelings for her have only grown stronger through out the years of knowing her. We flirt and all and I know she likes me but my problom is if I tell her how I really feel everything is gonna be diferrent between us. I also feel she is waiting for me to step up first and tell her how I feel. But man I say go for it just tell her you don't want things to change between you guys if she doesn't feel the same way. I wish you all the luck in the world man!

YellowSidewalkChalk · Accepted Answer

I guess that's a compliment to half of myself. lol I'm half black. However, I think its a little bit creepy at the same time. I mean how would you know you wanted to marry a black woman if you haven't even dated one? And it sounds like you are saying we are all the same which is insulting.

I have dated interracially a lot throughout my life so far. I have never dated a black guy, but I have dated black women. I have dated mostly white guys and a mixture of girls. My current girlfriend is white. So I have no problem with ir dating at all, but I think it should be for the right reasons, not simply because of some desire to date a black girl. Nobody wants to feel used because of their race.

I love black women but I have seen so many different types of black women that I can't be so sure as you are about some collective awesomeness that we all possess. I love black women but I'm not going to jump to generalizations about how we act. It depends on culture - is she african american, nigerian, dominican, etc. - as well as individual uniqueness.

and not all black women are brown skinned as we tend to define it. I don't know what you mean but a lot of dark girls call themselves "brown skinned" so that's what I think of when you say that. I know I'm biracial so that's a bit different but even throughout my black side of the family, not all the people are dark skinned. More tan or light brown in general.

timberlake · Accepted Answer

i think you should tell her how you feel 'cause you're really cute and awesome because you're so openminded (besides, I can see you getting all doey-eyed talking about how beautiful black girls are when you're really thinking about how beautiful she is :) )

you're adorable, hands down, and you're letting opportunities go by.

i love all guys - white guys because they're edgier and different from what I'm accustomed to (i'm black) so I like to see the differences and learn things and get stereotypes washed away, I guess. I love black men because I think they are beautiful and strong and relatable figures in my life (not saying that white guys aren't beautiful and strong, but yeah... you get what I'm saying lol). there's just a comfortable element there.

yeah, I think I'm pretty damn gorgeous :D jk, lol, but seriously, I think all women are beautiful (although you did boost my confidence with your post!) white girls have nice skin and can wear different colors and have such vibrant hair (I love red haired girls 'cause they're usually paler and have this really beautiful milky complexion that's admirable).

people are just beautiful to me and I think you're beautiful for being so open and seeing such beauty in a race that's been so belittled by other cultures for having "big lips" and "large asses" like it's a bad thing! lol anyway, I'm rambling. I wish you lived in my town, I would so date you!

alexis2009 · Accepted Answer

I'm not a guy and I can't say what guys like about us... but my boyfriend is white and he has always dated black women.

He has said that he likes the physical aspects too... but that in general he likes the generally, "strong" and open attitude that many black women exude.

Hats off to you! We need more guys that will admit being attracted to women of other races!

elizaabla · Answer

like I don't even know why I read everyones ignorant comments that I knew would make me mad. like what's the big deal. people are people. like why do people always have to say mean things about black girls? Like they might not be trying to be mean, but these things really hurt my feelings because  I just want people to say "wow she's pretty" without the "for a black girl" part. So thank you for making me feel like I'm hot today! I'm a normal girl like all the white girls but sometimes I feel like an alien. Black girls definitely don't have any worse attitudes than white girls-I know because I have so many friends black and white- black girls CAN have small butts and white girls can have big butts! All these stereotypes are retarded. People make little black girls hate themselves and think all the little white girls are prettier and it's really sad because there isn't only one type of beauty. So now I'm done ranting now...haha I probaby just made this post even worse sorry! just had to get all that out

2010atitagain · Answer

Don't worry about what other people think. If that's who you love, then that's who you love but be ready to be more than STRONG when it comes to dating a woman of color (I am one)...society has conditioned us to believe we were never as beautiful as someone with blonde hair and light eyes. Hopefully, the woman you love will have realized she is beautiful in her own skin, nose shape, hair texture, and whatever else pop culture sets as an ideal of beauty. But, I'm not saying all women of color go through this...

(I know this sounds so obvious but I have heard so many guys make borderline racist remarks about not wanting to date dark skinned women, etc. and they're not necessarily all Caucasian)

Be willing to understand what it means to walk in her shoes as a black woman.

People don't realize and want to pretend "oh, people are people" but seriously, our experiences as women of color are very different from a white man.

It's not about bringing up negative subjects, it's about seeing reality and rising above it.

Good Luck!

wildfire5288 · Answer

While I'm really happy that you like black girls because I'm mostly attracted to white guys I'm not gonna lie it bothers me a bit that you say you want to marry someone just because she's black.  I mean we're all different so just being black shouldn't be a reason to want to marry one of us.  I mean I'd rather someone date me because they like me as a person not because they like my skin tone.  I mean don't get me wrong I'd want them to be physically attracted to me too but I wouldn't want to be with someone whose main reason for wanting to be with me was because I'm black.

drinkitup · Answer

Hey Jadon... I'm a black & Native American woman. I'm married to a white guy, Dutch to be exact. We started out as best friends. For years we flirted with each other. Both of us afraid to make a move because we were "friends". We finally took that step. We've been together for 9 years. Married one year... I'm having the time of my life with my best friend and lover.

Just go for it. Tell her how you feel.

Be sincere. She may be freaked out, but give her time to process what you've told her.

As a side note, don't bring up color with her and say "I've never been with a black girl before." I think that may be most black women's peeve when it come to men of other colors wanting to date us. it's just weird.

RockchickUK · Answer

I think we are just born to like whatever we like.

I have always found black people attractive, my first childhood boyfriend was black and a lot of the people I found attractive over the years have been black or of mixed race.

Some of my friends used to be negative saying I looked for guys of a different race (I'm white)...but I find people of all races attractive.

I don't think its something that I am consciously doing, I just happen to not see race as an issue, where as my friends have said things like ''he's attractive for a *whatever race* guy''.

At the moment I am totally crushing on the most beautiful Indian guy I have ever seen. He is so handsome and has a personality to match.

We can't control what we fall for and find attractive and I for one aren't going to limit myself to white guys only.

If someone is beautiful they're beautiful. It really is that simple.

Good Luck x

Dorby · Answer

Oh...so many questions about this here, black girls asking what guys are thinking about them.

And I can absolutely agree with you, thinking about a typicall "black girl" I'm seeing a attractive confident girl, with an amazing body. And what I mean with that is that black girls do often "tend" to have the preferences I like, appearence...body type, and ass. I feminine bodies and asses, I am a assman...so I'm taking the freedom to be a bit prejudicious here as you see. ;-)

Just like like many white girls has a turn-on for black guys, I do have a turn on for black girls.

Allthough, I can't say that I'm going to marry one, I can just as easily fall for blondes, white, asian, brunettes just as much as for black girls.

rudeboy · Answer

I agree I LOVE black chicks but I don't know why, unfortunaly in australia there are not many black chicks around so it really hard...

i believe their body proportions are more desireable, boath men and women.. (I am into women mind you)

and ye, I have 4 nationalities I me and don't see other races as anything unusual just at a different place in different times.. we apparently originated from africa so hey, maybe that's y I like themm hahah

stktder · Answer

Yo Dude...Wow you really got some kinda concept going on in that brain of yours. Before you get too swallowed up by the waves you need to start wondering why the black dudes are leaving the black girls alone.  I asked a few months ago to a black girl why so many black guys were turning white. The response I got was black girls have gotten tired of black men's s_ _ _.  Then I turned and asked the same to one of my black guy friends, the response was black women are way too bossy, they fail to perform in bed and black women are not team players (they are in it for themselves).  So my request to you before you go off marrying someone you don't know, why don't you go out there and ask for yourself to your black male and female friends?

SouthernBelle_Britt · Answer

the world needs more men like you lol

but I agree with WildFire5288 about specifically singling out one race to plan to marry.

i would love to marry a white guy but I'm still open to anything! I think people of all races are beautiful in their own way, it's their personality & inner beauty that matters in the long run.

but like AllieBeatBama, I too live in the south & interracial relationships isn't something we see a lot of. I know it's totaly different in cities elsewhere, especially in the north but for us, it's still sadly such a taboo thing.

anyway though.. I was kinda taken aback when I read this though.. it's not often I find white guys so outspoken about black women, in the positive sense at least lol.

so kudos to you!

Jonny_ · Answer

I rarely find myself attracted to black girls... I have nothing against them, I think it's because I really love pale girls, especially Japanese girls, I'd also be more drawn to the slim figure, not so much bigger hips and curves. I can see how you can be attracted to them moreso than other races, In the same way I'm really attracted to Asian girls. It's all preference I guess... Good luck finding the women for you. :)

swagger · Answer

Depends how black?

Black is a broad spectrum of colours. Black isn't actually Black but many diffferent shades of Brown.

I myself love that Toffee Clolour Skin. You know... like the "Alicia Keys tone" That sh*t is hot.

But I do not find the really dark shade attractive. But maybe that's because I've not seen many in real life and hardly ever see them feature on TV or in Films... Perhaps they need to put themselves out there more!

SIS21703 · Answer

Your really afraid of rejection it's ok your young you will have a lot of girlfriend so what if you get rejected move on to the next one your young keep it simple it's not that serious. Say to her I know we have been friends for a long time in I just want to tell you that I feel more for you then a friend I would like to know if you would go out on a date with me. As long as she doesn't have a boyfriend already then you might be wasting your time. Am not going to really comment on the fact that she is black because it doesn't matter. You say your parents aren't racist so what are you afraid of fear will never let you get what you want you have to look fear in the eye in say I can do this am not afraid no matter what happens I will be ok as long as I keep moving forward. SO GOOD LUCK YOUNG MAN IN BY THE WAY AM A BLACK WOMEN not girl.

littlesqueakers · Answer

totally! she probably feels the same way and is afraid to tell you to because of rejection and all that because I know looking at you I would have never guessed. you give me hope in the world yet! but yah tell her and explain your feelings and if she says no then it either it wasn't meant to be or she is afraid of what could happen. trust me I have been in this situation numerous times! *shudder* well like yah take a chance and tell her and see what happens. you never know. by the way what were the two chicks you dated before. maybe I can get a better idea of how to help. well thank-you for that it was much needed and the best of luck to you sir!

:D XD

PedroKnows · Answer

Thank you for posting this question, amigo. Lucky for you Pedro knows.

The problem with black girls, Signor Jadon, is that they not Mexican. You try and get them to stay in the kitchen for more than 20 minutes to cook up a Nacho feast, and they'll be all, like "Get off your ass and cook your own Nachos!".

Don't get Pedro wrong, Pedro loves all the beautiful ladies of the world, but Pedro is telling you, once you've had a taste of Mexico, you'll want nothing but guacamole if you know what I mean, my friend!

Be good to each other, and remember - friends don't let friends.

Love

Pedro

The-Pixel-Ninja · Answer

Honestly, Black girls don't do it for me. A select few do, but honestly it's the least appealing ethnicity to me.(not to be mistaken for racism, definitely not the case) Don't really know why, maybe it's the hair. I'm sure I'll take some flak for this in this particular QnA.

As for the girl you like, go for it! Balls to the wall, man!

(Irrelevant tidbit, that phrase comes from the balls on plane throttles, It's from WWII fighter pilots. When the throttle was at full, the balls on the throttle would be hitting the wall of the cockpit. Balls to the wall = Full throttle.)

GhettoQueen · Answer

Just tell her because she probably feels the same way,and is afraid of what people may think...You have to understand that people will scold you but that's the beauty of your relationship to know that you would go through anything to be with that person. Hold back the fear and just bring it up in a conversation one day...You'll be surprised by how she reacts and she just might tell you what you want to hear...But don't tell her if she's already in a relationship because then you're giving her an ultimatum. And I'm loving how you complimented the mahogany women lol

Anonymous · Answer

I'm black and married to a white women. We married each other because we love each other not because of our color.  Personally I think its cool that you like black girls. I think some of them (like all "races") are very very beautiful. Why  I think its cool is because the media doesn't normally portray black women in a positive light and that you can see through this. Kudos to you for your individualism and maturity.

LoveDanceLove · Answer

Hey home boy if you you want them go for it..black,asian,spanish white girls are all humans they jus have different cultures and noone (nnnnooooooone) looks the same...it seems like you feel alone as if its bad to b in an interacial relationship...and like I said its ok they are humans jus like all the other girls.and if any piece of crap tells you different tell them to take a long walk off a short pier...they are jus prejudice and they are living lies as we speak! XC have funn and marry that special girl

GuyXXX · Answer

I'm white and I'm dating a black girl.

One word, amazing. I've never felt so at home, when we walk around I feel extremely attracted, and find us extremely hot and particular as a couple, which is really cool.

So yeah, I recommend black girls, they are number one choice. :)

palek · Answer

Don't get bogged down with the reasoning behind it all. Just find youself a black women whose right for you, fall madly in love, get married, and live very happily ever after.

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