Why "Beautiful" Girls Don't Reply & How To Get a Response

[Anonymous]

I completely understand where you guys come from when you think that beautiful girls can be quite harsh but to assume all of them are stuck up/mean is not the wisest thing to do and could hinder any chance you have with her. I know there are girls who will block you just for saying "hi" which I don't agree with, whilst others will assume your intentions are bad. I'm sure you've wondered why girls can be like this so I'll try to explain.

I can't make you guys fully understand because I know you guys think that it must be nice to be constantly complimented and admired and we should appreciate it (we still do) but anything that repeatedly happens can become a nuisance. Girls who are quick to kick off at you or block you probably receive many messages from men who are inappropriate with her and not just on one site, it can happen on every site she's on so anyone is bound to get fed up. The truth is, it makes you guys appear disposable, to her at least, as well as gradually giving her a bad view of men in general. If you receive hundreds of messages in one week, all of which are inappropriate, you're going to decide not to give any of them the time of day. Even gu

ys we think are lovely to begin with, often turn out to be terribly inappropriate and sexual so we don't want to waste our time. I'm sure that most of the women on this site come here to give advice, ask questions and enjoy the community, not to be continually asked for sex and nudes.

In my experience, I once used a social site and I would receive up to 30 new messages a day. I tried for so long to reply to everyone but of course, they're all going to keep replying expecting a conversation on top of receiving even more new messages. I lost track of conversations, often they were inappropriate and it took up all my time; I wasn't enjoying the rest of the site so I eventually decided to stop replying to messages. Guys on there assumed that I thought I was better than them for not replying, often getting aggressive or that I was talking to guys who I thought were better than them, that's why I wasn't answering. I've had guys on GaG who've instantly assumed I'm going to block them before they talk or that I'll "break their heart" because they think I'm pretty. I'm not like that, I will only block those who actively insult me or try to ruin my experience here and I don't like people assuming that I'm a b*tch. I'm sure you guys would get fed up and give up responding if you received so many messages, often leading nowhere.

Beauty is subjective. You may look at a woman and think she's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen whilst another person may think she's average looking or highly unattractive. Those people aren't going to assume that that woman is going to be nasty, so you shouldn't either. Just because you think she's beautiful, she's not going to block you or be rude to you, that depends on her personality. She may not reply but it's nothing personal.

If a girl blocks you just because you said "hey" then it's probably best you didn't waste your time on her; she most likely does think she's better than you. If you message a girl you find beautiful, don't assume that she'll think she's better than you and if she doesn't ever reply, she may have given up replying to all the messages she receives, your message has been lost amongst the others or she has forgotten to respond. If you're that guy who always asks sexual things, then you should expect to be blocked and have her get angry at you seeing as this isn't a sexual website used for sexual talks or nude exchanges. There are apps and websites for that kind of thing so you should use them.

There isn't much you can do to get a girl to reply to you if she has made the decision not to respond to messages or has a bad view of the men who

message her, but using good grammar and saying something more than just "hi, how are u?" will likely grab her attention and make her want to talk. Some examples would be "Hey, I really liked your post on [...], you give good opinions" or "Looking at your profile, you seem like a lovely person who I would like to get to know". I recommend that you check their profile beforehand to see if she's in a relationship because she's less likely to respond if she is. Don't get aggressive if she ignores you, your chances of a pleasant response is definitely out of the window then and she'll be glad she never responded in the first place after you've shown your true colors. It is her decision if/when to reply, just as much as it is yours.

I would say the best thing to do is before you send a message, ask yourself if you'd be happy for your daughter to receive the same message or if you'd be comfortable or feel it's appropriate saying that to a woman in person and then decide whether you should send it or not. I'm sure I can speak on behalf of the women here, that would be greatly appreciated!

[lumos]

Thissssssss. It's so boring when people only message you "hi" or "hi, what are you doing" or "hi, how are you". Such generic conversation starters can only lead to generic and boring conversations that don't get you anywhere, don't spark any interest and most certainly don't challenge you intellectually. I don't even bother answering to 99% of the messages I get here because they're boring, time consuming to answer and they don't lead to anything interesting.

[Ulyss]

Hi how are you xD

[Star_Lord]

Oh Wow , Now I know why don't reply to me, When a person send you a message, he/she probably want to get to know you, just you feel broing and don't want to reply.

[lumos]

@Ran1990 because I get the same generic messages all the freaking time. If I answered all of them, I would end up having the same generic conversation over and over. EVERYONE would find that boring.

[Soren]

Well, how u begin ur convo in ur real life somewhere?
U never say hi? if u don't so it's normal :)
if u do, so u should accept it for others too !

[Star_Lord]

@lumos, Yeah, you're right, I'll be understanding for you, I think you get so many message because guys likes you, As before I said you are very pretty, they just want to chat with you. but now I try to thinking in your way, not to bother you with boring message. After all your free time shuold belong to yourself. But I'm still happy sometimes you response to me, thanks! Hope you have a nice day!

[lumos]

@Soren sure, I say hi, but if I want to have an actual conversation with someone, I usually start off by asking them something unique or telling them something interesting, instead of just "how r u".

[lumos]

@Ran1990 thank you :)

[Soren]

Well ask me something unique or intresting here pls :)

[lumos]

@Soren I would, if I wanted to have a conversation with you.

[Soren]

LOL, that's it :)
u don't even know what is intresting to ask, so how u want someone ask u intrested things lol !
There is no IF here, prof urself if u can lol ! but trust me, u CAN'T :)

[lumos]

@Soren I don't even understand half of what you're saying.

[Soren]

Ur problem :)

[kheserthorpe]

I don't see why you'd answer them. If they had something to talk about with you based on your answers, they'd be doing it. They're just saying 'hi' because they think you're pretty and have a vague, poorly formed urge to chat with you.

[lumos]

@kheserthorpe pretty much, yeah.

[Star_Lord]

@kheserthorpe, Hey not all the guys like you said, I try to talk with her, because I want to, and Internet is a free platform , everyone has the right to ask something or talk with random people. As for her want to answer or not, that's her business not your business. She want to reply to them because She wanted to be polite to them! Plus she is not interested in anyone here I guess! Am I right Lumos?

[kheserthorpe]

@Ran1990
People don't just randomly get to know people for no reason very often. There's a reason attractive girls are bombarded with 'hi' type messages and nobody else is.

There's no particular reason why some random person would want to get to know you. You want to get to know her because she's hot. Fine. You want to strike up a conversation? Go for it. But have something to say. There are guys here bitching at her because they randomly chat her up because she's hot and then complain that she doesn't have anything to say either. SHE DIDN"T TRY TO START CHATTING.

[Star_Lord]

@kheserthorpe prertty girls who really attractive get bombard, I think that's completely normal , I know the girls who often get this, they feel annoying. But if they don't get bombard that's mean no one wants to pay attention to them. Do you think that's normal for the attractive prertty girls? Even not on here, In the society, they are still get attention from the different guys.

Yes I want to get to know her a little bit, that's my business nor yours, and I don't need to random person to get to know me. I am the seeker and hunter, you just stand out, officious.

[Star_Lord]

@kheserthorpe And yes every time I try to talk with her, I didn't just Hi or how are you, I know that's silly , So I show her my compliment in message, but she don't answer me. so how do you know I just say hi to her and try to bother her? There are guys here bitching at her not just at her as you said they doing this to all the pretty girls not just her, by the way why you care about it? you already gmarried, but in fact you not her hero. And we all can't stop guys typing stupid message to her.

[lumos]

sssssssshhhhhhh

[myTake Owner]

The most interesting and long lasting conversations I've had were with people who started the conversation slightly differently!

[Tomsta]

Well when said girls don't give you anything to start a conversation with how do you expect guys to strike a convo, if all you've put in your profile is generic crap (or even nothing at all) then you can't blame a guy if he has a generic message

[Theguyoverthere]

I see this problem with girls on dating sites. They get 30+ messages daily yet guys complain the girls don't reply. Well, I wouldn't expect a girl to reply to a guy she wasn't interested in... let alone doing so 30+ times a day. It's not practical.

Plus honestly, receiving a reply would have the guy thinking "Oh.. she's interested" just to open a message saying "I'm not interested." I say better off not replying.

[OpenClose]

I wish there was a filtering system for that. I had a couple ideas for methods, such as tagging of sexually inappropriate material, which can be associated with the offender's profile, but also check how often tags are given out. That way someone can't just tag everyone as sexually inappropriate to be a bitch.

Maybe I should just learn some HTML, PHP, and Jscript and create my own site based on filtering, (and questions like on OKC).

I do remember one site called something like "adopt-a-man", in which men set up their profiles, but can't send any messages until a woman sends one first. (I think they CAN rate how attractive they find a woman.)

The idea may make some men feel a little uneasy, completely giving up the reins. However, it's good for women because they don't get any unwelcome messages unless the initiated contact, and it's good for men because we aren't disposable like M-Fing kernels of popcorn, we don't have to put up with being associated with sleazy scumbags, and it makes women have to step up to the plate. A girl can't get away with expecting her entitled compliments to pour in, so this also filters out the gold-diggers and the princesses.

Dang, I'm wanna find that site again.

[myTake Owner]

That's a good idea actually, did you tell the admins? That site's a good idea too, I like it :)

[OpenClose]

The bad news is that the site is now apparently only in German. Which is odd, because it's a French site hosted in the UK.

[LaDouleurExquise]

You got a point and i constantly urge men to STOP their overflattery for this very reason, it helps no one, ruins their chances of getting laid and turns otherwise nice girls into giant self absorbed bitches. But i think its important to note that even though girls feel this way and get put off by it its not ok and its not something they should embrace about themselves. Men are NOT disposable, and to take that kind of stance just because you think you're being overly pursued is sexist and frankly disrespectful to men.

The reality of the situation is just what i like to call the coffeshop mentality. If there's 10 guys and 10 girls in a coffee shop and each guy asks out 3 girls, (which of course he will to keep his chances higher) then the hottest girl is gonna think she has 10 guys pursuing her, and the ugliest girl is still gonna think she has 3 guys pursuing her. the number of men approaching you its not so much a reflection of your own worth as a partner but more a reflection of the nature of men and the fact that they hate putting all their eggs in one basket and the fact that they're the ones expected to do the approaching. there's still only 10 guys in the room but each girl thinks she can have almost any and every guy and it really fucks with everyones head because the girls are going to disproportionately estimate their worth and the guys are going to get disproportionately rejected.

the coffeeshop effect is alive and well in the egos of women despite the fact that some might try to logically reconcile or attempt to consciously avoid it. there was a famous study done in the 80s that proved you could ask 100 girls to come to bed with you and not one would say yes. yeses from men at the other hand averaged about 40%. a popular YouTube channel got the same results for both men and women:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxyySRgrYsU

[LaDouleurExquise]

another less scientific study found that even the most attractive man gets a tiny tiny fraction of the amount of messages that the least attractive woman does in online dating. i say less scientific because the superficial attractiveness of each picture was based on his own personal opinions, but i dont especially disagree with him and i'd say the data confirms he's probably right for the most part. still it points out a huge gap between men and women being pursued or even appreciated or acknowledged as human beings. keep in mind, one guy got 0 messages after months, and the other 2 got 1-2. No ones even acting like they exist meanwhile some of the girls inboxes are overflowing.

what the facts show time and time again is that there's a growing sexism and misandry from women that i believe is solely rooted in feminism and its poisonous teachings, and the influx of desperate men is just a natural reaction to the masses of sexually withdrawn women, and vice versa, in a vicious cycle.

[LaDouleurExquise]

oh right here's the link i forgot to post
jonmillward.com/.../

[emmabee11]

Stop treating them like they are some "higher archy" and treat them like a human being, is it so hard for anyone these days to do that? lol bcause i feel like it is lol, we are all humans with feelings and 1 goal in common: TO BE HAPPY AND LOVED!. So if you start playing mind games, getting all jealous and huffy, going away then coming back they qre just going to be confused, annoyed and generally put off lol a lot of you guys these days say us girls waste your time on "going for the "bad guys" ", but truth is you waste your own time not bieng straight to the point, i mean don't be TOO straight to the point get to properly know us first and if we like you WE LIKE YOU :P if we don't, we don't... it's THAT simple lol, if they don't like you don't start playing games as if you can "fix" the situation then start getting all creepy, we don't like you, we are NOT playing hard to get (and yes some girls do but they are being idiots), we just don't like you... lol. Also when a girl says she wants to be your friend then don't go off on a tangant on us going "horse crap! there you go "friend-zoning" me, typical of you women!" HAHA! there is no such thing as a "friend-zone" is a term created by pop-cultrure to confuse everyone and push each other further apart (and turn guys into whiney bitches lol), we girls are just actually mature enough to still get over that difference and to forget about the situation and to start over as friends... is that so bad? no... lol. Do little sweet shit for us like we would do for you and your well on your way lol, that's all you need to do.

[Mando_Burgerhaha]

Man let me tell you a tip of how to get her to write back , be different that's all it takes don't come at her with a hi , or hello , or was up , come at her with a difference stimulate her mind make her see you are very different every detail counts trust me. Add a subject like well or may I. Followed by something that's different and will make her laugh if you think it's funny she will most likely think the same. But don't get fooled any woman that falls for that game is full of it and are looking for fun and a challenge meaning they will probably go for the next guy that comes at them differently again and start getting less into your conversation. You have to be fast but not to fast with those type of women now the good not easy women will not reply to that they will reply to the hi beautiful how are you doing today , if you don't mind I would really like to get to know you better and take you on a date on the near future etc etc , now if she replies to this than she is a good woman depending on what she replies of course. See not all women are one woman they are all different in every way is up to us what do we want do we want a fling or a real relationship keep your choices going don't push for one woman as if she was the only one in the world because she ain't there's more than a billion out there one of them will be real one of them will be a slut is up to us what we want men remember this.

[pbracing33b]

Which is why I think its better to know a girl in person than on a dating site! Bc u know if a girl is into you or not! But tbh I'm done with dating sites I do better IRL than I do on dating sites. Except one time I did date a girl recently that I met online, but it didn't go no where. But for the most part no one replies (or hardly does) and the girls that I have dated in real life are really attractive and down to earth. One girl I dated for a really long time and I thought that we were going to get married, until she cheated on me. But for the most part dating in real life is better than online, I mean I spend hours and hours trying to woo women, and I get tons of profile views but no one communicates online, and to me its a waste of time. I know I am an attractive guy bc almost every single girl I have ever dated in real life has been extremely attractive and I always have guys jealous of me, but I've found out it doesn't matter how good lookin they are, if they treat you bad or they are physco then it doesn't matter how good lookin a chic is, its not worth it. Plus if they are good lookin they always have some dude hitting on them and chics won't say anything and seem to enjoy it, even though they have a bf, its like they don't care they have a bf, til ur gone and they don't realize how good they have it then its like their kissing ur butt to take them back or they are always second guessing themselves, well if you girls weren't so wishy washy you would of realized what you had.

In conclusion from a guys standpoint its a waste of time to do online dating, literally, so just keep it real and meet girls the old fashioned way, just go up to them and ask for a date (obviously there is more to it, but just go for it), all they can do is say no! But it shows that you have confidence to ask her out in person, than on some stupid dating site.

[pbracing33b]

Also here is a classic example of why some guys won't even talk to you because you've already assumed the worst in us, so why even try message you when your About me says this:

"Please don't message me if you are not taking this site serious, don't write me saying what's up? , your sexy, or some other dumb lines again please don't!!! Talk to correctly like you should talk to a woman. And if I don't respond don't write me again because I will block you, because that means I'm not interested and there is plenty more women to write to and hit on!"

I mean seriously why should I even try to message a woman like this when she already assumes the worst! Do women normally do this in real life? NO THEY DON'T SO WHY DO IT ON A DATING SITE?

[TheDevilInside]

So... your point is just to tell us that guys think you're beautiful? Okay.

What I don't understand is, if the emount of messages bother you "beautiful girls", why not take your picture off this site? You can still use this site normally even if you have a picture of a kitten or just a default picture like mine. It would drastically reduce the creepy messages you'll get. Or set your profile to private. I sometimes still get the occasional "hi" or a weird "hi dear, how are you today" from a girl. But I guess it must be way less than if I put up my picture here, and definitely way less than if I put up a picture of some hot girl on here.

This take is basically just like when women wear low-cut shirts and then get mad at guys who stare at them. And then you explain why women gt mad. "Oh it's because we have tons of guys stare at our chests". Then why not cover your tits up if you don't want attention? Same thing with the whole messaging thing, even if you only show your "beautiful" face.

Taking off your picture might not be an option if you're on a dating site, so your take's explanation might help men who are on there. But on here, you seriously don't need a photo or a public profile. If the messages bother you, there are enough options you can choose to stop them coming. Just saying.

[myTake Owner]

If you think the whole take was for that reason, then you have nothing to contribute.

I often do but why should I have to? I'd prefer do my own thing and not respond to messages. My profile is private. If a woman wants to wear a low cut top then she has the right to but I don't think she has the right to kick off at everyone just like I said I don't agree with girls immediately banning guys and assuming they have bad intentions online just for saying hi. I only had a real message problem on the other site I used, not on here. This wasn't a rant about me receiving messages, I don't know where you got that idea from and I know what to do.

[scrappygirl]

so because men can't control themselves women have to cover themselves up? why do people always insist on blaming women but not men.

[TheDevilInside]

I got that idea because it sounded that way. Whether you meant it like that or not.

@scrapygirl: you don't post an opinion but post complaints on 3 other people's opinions. I'm sorry, but I don't like users who rarely posts their own opinions but rather attacks other people's opinions constantly. I find it annoying, so I'm blocking you. I don't need this or want this. Besides, your logic seemed... flawed and kind of strongly feministic.

All I'm saying is, there's a consequence to whatever it is you're doing or don't do. If you want let your tits out, you will get men staring. You'd either have to bge OK with that, or just don't let the girls out. Same thing with messages. If you show yourself and allow access to your inbox, you will get messages. You'd either have to be OK with that, or either not give everyone access to your inbox or take off your photo.

[Scrambled]

@TheDevilInside Love your username;) @scrappygirl its not about men not controlling themselves, they will look or make a move by the hundreds if you are hot, its just logical. What men do when blatantly rejected is what separates the good guys, creeps, dangerous etc.

[TheDevilInside]

@Scrambled: thanks! I know, right? Someone is totally missing the point here and is just looking for someone to blame for things "not being fair" for women.

[Loudon]

I remember coming to this realization years ago, it's pretty crazy, and it begins from a young age, unfortunately.

I also remember when I made the connection between girls getting hit on ~50x a week to black guys having to endure color jokes/questions/comments everytime we have a good conversation with a guy. At a point it was like everyday someone had something "insightful" or "funny" to say but never imagined that I'd already heard it and didn't care to hear it again (I played it cool tho).

It's exhausting, to say the least and that is why I give women a break and save my generic openers for my cat.

[myTake Owner]

Haha, that's a lucky cat!

[Icarus45]

@Hannah591 I see so this is similar to how universities look at personal statements? In that they are not interested in seeing the same generic and cliche personal statements & thus it is easier for them to dispose/reject them. I can see what you mean by some boys being disposable - getting the same generic messages e. g "hey how are you" or a simple "hey" is boring and does not open many paths to a potentially interesting conversation.

Thanks for clearing things up - I don't normally comment on peoples takes but this caught my attention & it was really helpful XD.

[myTake Owner]

I'm glad I took you out of lurker mode & you liked the take! :)

[Anonymous]

What happens when a dude pretends to be a woman on OkCupid? He quickly learns how insufferable online dating can be for women. “I figured I would get some weird messages here and there,” writes Reddit user and armchair social psychologist OKCThrowaway22221. “But what I got was an onslaught of people who were, within minutes of saying hello, saying things that made me as a dude who spends most of his time on 4chan uneasy.” www.bustle.com/.../12671-okcupid-experiment-teaches-one-man-how-obnoxious-online-dating-is-for-women

[myTake Owner]

So much yes! I'm glad he saw what it's like for us.

[CreativeUsername_no]

I got a hot girl to respond once. Her bio on Tinder actually went like "Will only reply if your opener is witty and spontaneous" - that's the level of attention she was getting and/or the opinion she had of herself. So I pulled out the stocks and messaged her the words "witty and spontaneous", and it worked!

Later in the conversation I inevitably got a bit neurotic, as is my way. Tried making a few self-deprecating jokes (which, infuriatingly, I'm starting to think you're just NOT ALLOWED TO DO EVER if you're a man), and the conversation stopped.

Later I looked at her bio again and saw she changed it to "Will only reply if you're witty and spontaneous". Definitely a proud moment for me.

[OpenClose]

I do think there needs to be more leniency with regards to confidence. If you are insecure, that makes you human, not a sub-man. Anyone who appears to have no insecurities is probably wearing a mask.

[MaskedSanity]

Fantastic post. Covers all areas superbly.

When I was on Okcupid some years ago, aggressive assholes who assumed I was ignoring them were doing my fucking head in. Yeah, we get a lot of messages, we bloody know. But if we get a lot of messages, we probably need some bloody time to reply to them all or at least read through them. And of course replied messages will get responses back and the inbox will burst. But that's too hard for some men to figure out, so they get angry and go to the internet to whine about "stuck up bitches". /facepalm

And among all the messages we have to sift through all the sexual advances, of which it's usually 60-70%!
Uh, if I wanted to hookup, I'd join Meet&Fuck for fucking fuck's sake.

[mistninja314]

cdn.lolcaption.com/.../...at-sexy-cat-hey-baby.jpg nuff said ^^ and nice take

[myTake Owner]

Hello again haha. That's a beautiful cat.

[mistninja314]

hannah is cute and should feel cute (the thirst runs deep in this one mistninja314) ^^ but you should've added this "talk to her 1st around the site, if she finds you/the conversation interesting she'll inbox you" ^^ more times than not... you see a lot of guy just say "HI" but just like you said, they fail to realise that she gets about 40 messages per day ^^

most of them are so generic that they become just another guy to the girl LOLOLOL they fail to ask themselves "what sets me apart from the rest of these guys"?

[mistninja314]

talk to her around the site 1st *
if she finds you or the conversation interesting she'll inbox you *
guys*
they fail to ask themselves this*

hate that i can't enlarge the typing box anymore lolol

[myTake Owner]

You've got it spot on.

[mistninja314]

@abundantlyrich Guys are either too aggressive to downright stupid. Case closed.

i agree but read my opinion lolo ^^

[abundantlyrich]

Impressive

[mistninja314]

@Icarus45 "talk to her around the site 1st, if she finds you or the conversation interesting she'll inbox you" ^^ more times than not... you see a lot of guys just say "HI" but just like you said, they fail to realise that she gets about 40 messages per day ^^

most of them are so generic that they become just another guy to the girl LOLOLOL they fail to ask themselves this"what sets me apart from the rest of these guys"?

most guys here are so GENERIC its funny so i agree with you and hannah's take

[PiuBelloAmante]

Great honest Take!
I really enjoyed reading this...
I always tell my guy friends that messaging "hot" "sexy" or "beautiful" girls is difficult cause creeps ruin it for the average dude

This take is really insightful, especially since it is coming from a lady!

[myTake Owner]

Thankyou! :)

[Anonymous]

i know this is only partially true! the reason being that i once made a fake profile, with some pics from a dude that i thought girls would be into, and the fact is that he got way more responses. try this out for yourselves. seems a bit of a jerk thing to say but its true! im really not the best looking or build guy. i dont really make a big deal about it, but it was really funny to see. with my real profile, i try all types os messages, from the simplest "hi how are you, hows your day going" to a bit more 'complex' stuff, whenever infos are available in her profile, with almost no responses. with the fake account i made, i just needed to say hi, and most of them would respond and some of the girls were even leading and trying to keep the conversation, while i kept giving really short answers! while with my real profile the chances of some girl responding is at least 1 in 50, while with the fake profile it would be 1 in 5! no joke...

[Opinion Owner]

correction:
while with my real profile the chances of some girl responding is at least 1 in 50, with the fake profile it would be 1 in 5! no joke...

[scrappygirl]

not really nice to use someone elses photo though what if someone did that to you?

[Opinion Owner]

i know i know. in my defence, while it is imoral, once your or my or anybodys pictures land on the internet, its kind of out of our hands to control where they'll be used.

[myTake Owner]

I do believe you. Like I said, there will be women who think they're better than you because they don't find you physically attractive. Doing what you did is a good way of weeding out shallow ladies.

[SpiderManFan2002]

Oh my goodness, you are a hero for writing this.

I don't consider myself beautiful, I'd say I'm a solid average because as you said beauty is subjective. When I first joined here I was 15, and some of the messages I received from guys were disgusting, so I became one of those girls who would just instantly block a guy who said "hi" because I was just so sick of the disgusting comments, I guess I stereotyped and that was wrong.

I'm older now, sometimes when a guy messages me out of nowhere I don't block him but I do tend to be firm with him, to begin with, because I don't want him to mistake my friendliness for flirting like a lot of them do. And I always make it clear I'm not looking to date, and I'm not down to flirt.

Anyway, thank you for writing this. :) <3

[Byakuyarko]

"beautiful girls (and boys)" are too in love with themselves to explicitly turn down advances from losers who aim out of their league. It's an self esteem issue. Their self worth is directly linked to the number of schmucks they can get to worship them. While it is laughable that ugly, poor loser males with 0 game expect to score with perfect 10s... It's equally contemptible for god awful looking acne infested, out-of shape women with low self esteem to get proper serious attention from alpha males who radiate charisma... humans are biological creatures. And natural selection runs its course in spite of our precious little feelings.

[Scrambled]

Online dating for men is like baby turtles returning to the ocean. There are plenty in the beginning but only a handful make it safely to the ocean. The rest die. Rather change your dating strategy. Find a male buddy (get involved with social things in your neighborhood) and go out.

[Anonymous]

Haha it's an interesting discussion about attractive girls not responding to messages from men... Yet men rarely message a girl if she doesn't have a picture so technically they don't really care WHO the girl is just how she looks like so then why become so defensive if SHE chooses to NOT reply?

I am speaking from experience. I don't have a picture up on my profile and I've been on this site a year - not a single message lol

Just saying... it's not just the men who don't get interest :)
But they get pretty darned upset if their interest isn't reciprocated

[Nik1hil]

Never say "Hi" in text to a beautiful girl..
Start by something important..
Like question related between things you both know..

Never hit on her in first 3 lines..
Keep conversation off her beauty.. Give her something more..
Because the things I said are what she gets by every men.. Instantly..

Give her something more..
Take her mind to think of something she has never thought of before..
And then you can give the conversation an unstoppable flow..
And
All if not Girls are hungry for quality conversation..
And that can lead your ship Anywhere you like..

If you are a great Captain..
You can lead it to RELATION-SHIP
if you are a stupid captain.
You can lead it in FRIEND-SHIP

[bunnyy]

I don't usually reply on here because I have a boyfriend and I am here to use the site for it's intended purpose it is not a dating site people! I've had people try to guilt trip me too like "oh I'm so sorry if I offended you at all I just wanna chat because blaah blah blah" but I have the right not to respond if I don't want to it's nothing against you I just don't come here to chat it's not a chat site either.