I have been guilty of this in the past when I had no relationship experience at all.
Then finally I had it reversed on me and a girl would compliment me too much.
Finally I said, "wow, ao many compliments. I feel like I am taking a compliment shower."
Then when I started getting relationships, the first couple weeks I would be in bliss with a girl and compliment her all the time and she wiuld compliment me all the time.
After that blissfulness wore off and the next stage of the relationship shifted, she started not complimenting me so much and making me feel like sh*t all time. Then they start taking advantage of you.
So I've noticed through experiences of dating that if they seem too perfect in the beginning then something is wrong.
If they compliment you too much, it most likely means that they are controlling or jealous person when the relationship gets to the next level.
I noticed this about myself when I complimented too much that I would grt jealous if she had a life ouside of my own and would get paranoid.
It is something I have been working in and reading up on about my psychological thinking.
This is something I have been trying to conquer because jealousy and neediness can leave you completely lost, confused and alone.
Then you see a potential lover be loved by someone who can handle it when she is off with her friends and can compliment her genuinely. :)
As being a guy, I can say that most of the guys are flirts. But some of them could be genuine too. I had this situation when I loved a girl. it was my first love and everything about her made me crazy. I was in a deep love and I started to compliment her too much. I felt that she was the most beautiful girl in the world and she was an angel. I said everything I felt about her like lips, eyes and her small replies she used to gave me. I complimented every word she said and everything she does just cause I felt that way. Now I realize she might have thought the same that I was not genuine with my words. She might have thought I was just a flirt too. Now I don't feel that she is the most beautiful girl in the world anymore. yeah, sometimes a guy could be genuine with his words too.
Guys like that overcompliment every woman. Trying to butter you up to get the p****. The compliments may be genuine but usually the intent behind it is not. Beware of people who use flattery to get what they want from you. That's how this guy I'm currently dodging is. He overcompliments me to the point it's sickening. I'm like "dude please, the panties are NOT coming off just because you keep calling me beautiful". it's almost insulting my intelligence. I need a guy to use his natural charm and personality, not overly complimenting me
If you get a feeling it's not genuine, trust it. I had an ex who did that, and I strongly suspected he was following some sort of internal script (he repeated compliments to me that he said his dad said to his mom) and liked to make passive-aggressive "joking" insults about my body and stuff. If you see any of those signs, it's likely fake.
Probably not genuine. He's most likely a charmer and is used to girls falling for it. When a guy compliments me too much I usually get sick of it and it makes me feel like I'm not special and he just throws those words out there to basically any girl.
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did you know that you're so pretty, and you have beautiful eyes, and I like your dress, and those shoes look amazing, and I like your smile, and you're so adorable when you giggle, and how you smell like sweet vanilla when you put your fav perfume on, those juicy lips when I sneak a kiss in, and the way your skin radiates when we dance under the stars and moon on that warm summer night?
soooooooo...with that flurry of compliments...does that genuine or reeks of desperation? :P
This could also be applied to when a girl is laughing at someone being funny more than anyone else is.
She's more than likely doing it because she is interested in you, in some way(s), which potentially can make her laugh more often/longer than anyone else because of her emotions towards you.
I think it is most of the time genuine, you can feel that he or she is genuine with his or hers compliments about you.
If that person is just hammering away compliments non-stop then it might not be as genuine as to compliment occasionally while being flirtatious.
If he's saying what he truly feels, he's being genuine.
I, for one, tend to fall fast and hard, and can infer a lot about people successfully from very small pieces of information. I can lay on the complements hard. I mean them.
Honestly, though, just because a guy is genuinely interested in you and likes you as a person does not also mean he wants anything more than some cheap thrills and sex from you, either, so communication matters.
He could be a nice guy who doesn't want to lose a girl his interested in in. A lot of guys who haven't dated much do what the web tell them women like. He might not have many real life experience with girls so he's probably just nervous and would rather kill her with kindness then say the wrong thing and look foolish to her. It doesn't mean he a player or just want to play in her cookie jar. He may be just green about girls. Have the girl say some way off the wall sh*t and see how he responds.
Well if you're just talking and not dating... it could be that he is really into you but has no other way to express his feelings for you other than to compliment you. Think about this, if you're not dating, then he can't hold your hand, or hug you, or kiss you, or show you he likes you in any other way than by telling you. He is either a good genuine guy... or he is just trying to get laid. You will have to be the judge of his character based on what you know of him. Get to know him and give the dude a chance, time will tell what his intentions are.
It depends on the intentions of the guy. If you get reeled in by compliments, then that's an easy way to be taken advantage of. Compliments are alright and all that, but can be used to gain favors, etc.
It can't be too genuine if the compliments are overdone, unless the guy is head-over-heels in love.
It's been a week. What do you care? He's an overzealous idiot.
I'm sorry; let me rephrase that: It could be that he is genuinely enthralled by your astounding abilities. If so then he speaks the truth. There is nothing more to it really; it's genuine even if uncalled for, unwanted, and unnecessary. Just be happy you have a living cheerleader you don't have to pay.
It could be genuine.
If someone has a deep crush, he or she often puts the other person on a pedestal as if that person were a god(dess). I've been both the crusher and the crushee, so I know this from experience.
If he really were a player, he would know better than to compliment you endlessly.
It can be genuine, but it sounds like he's just to eager to please, tell him to slow down, because by the sounds of it, he's falling in love very fast, and is heading for a big crash when he does,x
No
This is fantasyland
beware the flip side when things go South
it's equally bizarre and devastating
Must have picked him up from the theater?
Would be interesting to see how many gals slept with him due to these lines in the past.
Yes its possible, because I'm in a relationship and I compliment my girlfriend alot, because I really like her and appreciate her.
But because he doesn't know her well, it might be all fake... Watch out ;)
More creepy than genuine.
Compliments are all about timing and smooth choice of words.
Can't be over used.
Yes it can, some guys feel the need to verbally express their adoration of the girl they like because:
1) he may suck at showing feelings
2) he wants to pump up the girl's self esteem and self-image by reinforcing positive traits to her
Probably not genuine. Excessive flattery means he's either a player or a clumsy dork, you don't want either one of those.
I do compliment my crush quite a bit but I mean every word ...
it's not because he's genuine, it's because he just wants p**** by giving you excess flattery. AFC 101
i never think a compliment is genuine unless it is something that was thoughtfull, something that does show that the person knows me or payed attention to me
I think it COULD be genuine, but I would be careful of it if it was me just cause of my past experiences with being over complimented by certain guys and it not ending so well when we dated.
He is trying to get in your pants be careful. I fell for it once
i think over complinting is sign of trying too hard
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