I don't know why girls are so turned off by me. Unlike most high school guys, I don't just want sex. When I go up and talk to a girl at school, I try to seem natural. For example, today was the first day back from the blizzards, so when I approached a girl after school in the library alone, I was like "how was your second winter vacation?". I don't think that seemed odd because I was talking to a bunch of other people all around the library. Plus, I said it with a smile because I noticed that makes people feel comfortable. She replied and we talked for a bit. She seemed comfortable and laughed a bit. As the conversation was ending, she finished packing up, and I said bye to her and went to talk to some other friends. Later, I saw her in the cafeteria doing her homework with some friends. I want to assume she just wanted to be with her friends, but part of me really thinks she left to get away from me.
I get rejected all the time. I don't even ask her out, I just try to be friendly and kind. But they always get creeped out or alienated. When talking I never look at her body, and keep eye contact (not too much of course). I just don't get what it is I'm doing that turns people off and makes them reject me. Some people have mentioned that I'm too nice and should play hard to get or be a bad boy. I tried it and felt horrible because I always try to be honest and those felt like lies, and went against my morals. One of my other theories is that they see my talking as flirting and me as a player (which is totally laughable considering I am not looking for sex and have never been with a girl). Or they see me as fake even though it's genuine kindness.
I don't want to seem like a pushover, I just really like doing nice things for other people (if they start to take advantage of me, I would stop). I really empathize and care for other people in a loving way. I am really just trying to find a special someone to show affection for, and make her feel special. I wish girls would just give me a chance to show her how much I care.
I get rejected all the time. I don't even ask her out, I just try to be friendly and kind. But they always get creeped out or alienated. When talking I never look at her body, and keep eye contact (not too much of course). I just don't get what it is I'm doing that turns people off and makes them reject me. Some people have mentioned that I'm too nice and should play hard to get or be a bad boy. I tried it and felt horrible because I always try to be honest and those felt like lies, and went against my morals. One of my other theories is that they see my talking as flirting and me as a player (which is totally laughable considering I am not looking for sex and have never been with a girl). Or they see me as fake even though it's genuine kindness.
I don't want to seem like a pushover, I just really like doing nice things for other people (if they start to take advantage of me, I would stop). I really empathize and care for other people in a loving way. I am really just trying to find a special someone to show affection for, and make her feel special. I wish girls would just give me a chance to show her how much I care.
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