Virgin appeal?

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I'll openly admit my virginity. Simply put, I haven't been in a relationship to the point where I'd feel comfortable crossing that first bridge. It happens, its not something I bring up unless asked directly.So, twice now, in insanely different situations (different countries at that) I've had guys offer to err...give me some experience. Out of the blue. First time around was a random bar guy, whom I was trying to fend off, but the pursuit became a bit more intentional once the V-card came up.Second time, totally different, was a chap I had met before, but hadn't gotten to know prior to that weekend's events. So after some friendly chat about life, there were the standard relationship status questions, which I answered and brushed off; no big deal. Conversation changed, headed off to bed. Once I reached the pillow texts of realization {paraphrasing} "Wait, so you haven't ever..?" "ahh. no" "Well, if you want to come over, I can fix that for you." "NO"that one was really a hit to the head out of left field.the next 20 odd min were spent giving the reasoning to a "no" or ignoring said texts.Basically. why does the v-card seem to suddenly cause a need to  pounce and have me? Is there some masculine appeal to getting the new girl?

SweetHeart09 · Accepted Answer

i also have this kinda problem..once "the talk" comes up and I say I'm a virgin..its like everything after that goes in one ear and out the other, and all they are fascinated with is why I choose to be one, what's the farthest I've gone and a whole bunch of other things that are none of their business...all of them wanted to be the first, or give me a little exprience lol...i actually had someone tell me to just let them show me how fun it was and if I didn't like it them I could just go back to waiting for marriage lol..boys are so clueless..im currently single now because it seems like I can't find someone whose mature enough to settle down with me w/o trying to pressure or talk me into having sex..im proud to be a virgin and I'm fine with being single until I meet the right person whose is fine with no sex until marriage, even if it takes awhile...but yeah I think guys love the thought of being "the first"...

poison1310 · Accepted Answer

I think it's because guys want power and touching the untouched gives them that power. I am openly about my virginity too though no one believes me, lol. Guys are just weird like that.  I know it's hard to find that special someone who loves you and you love back. Wait until you have that and sex will be so much more meaningful and special. Having sex just to have it is wrong in my opinion. Wait until you find the guy you love who loves you for you, not for your body or because you're a virgin or anything else. Keep doing what you're doing, but if you don't want to hurt their feelings give them good reasons.

innocence7107 · Accepted Answer

im waiting till marrige and I also feel that more men chase after me because of that fact even though while dating they get angry when you don't give in.  Its like they admire the fact that your waiting, but it angers them when your "thiers".

tanr7 · Accepted Answer

Maybe, seeing a virgin is becoming more rare. I feel the same in some aspects. I am also a virgin and a lot of the people I met were very surprised and even laughed about it. But you know, its OK to wait for that special someone. I admire what your doing. Don't lose it to anyone you don't care about, especially if your not ready. Hang in there, you'll meet that special someone and you'll know when the time is right. I am hoping for the same too. Its good to meet a fellow virgin soldier sometimes, lol

papasmurf · Accepted Answer

yeah I think there is a masculine appeal, but even more a ego appeal. I find it stupid, me myself holding onto to my card until the right person (probably a stupid idea hoping it might have happened a little earlier in life). But that's sh*tty that guys are sh*tty, but firsthand I can tell you I know a bunch of guys including myself who are looking for a genuine relationship and pooping a girls cherry is not priority number one

peace-love-couture · Answer

Conquering "untouched" territory Although a lot of guys on here say they don't like virgins because virgins are clingy and over emotional haha

ErikM · Answer

Guys just like to be the first. They want to be the ones who steal your innocence from you.

jackflynn7 · Answer

Yes.  A power thing.  A notch on the gun thing.  Also, since you are inexperienced and are expected to be overwhelmed, he won't have performance anxiety as he would if you knew your way around.

WavyCherry · Answer

If you were to openly admit your virginity, you wouldn't be anonymous, haha. No worries.

But, some guys like the virgin appeal, some don't. Some will like a girl with experience. It just depends...just like everything.

simpleguy2010 · Answer

I am 31, I am virgin, looking for some special person.

steveisbored · Answer

if your a hott virgin, guys LOVE that

snackeyg · Answer

For me the appeal is only because I'm a virgin. I feel like that would be better and more meaningful.

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