I'm in my late 20's and still a virgin should I kill myself?

"I'm sick and tired of seeing 14 and 15 year olds little boys, with GF's. I mean WTF why is it that they have GF's and I don't?"

The answer, simply, is confidence.

You lost whatever confidence you had, as you admit yourself. Without confidence, you simply aren't attractive to women. There are a lot of guys like you and I was one of them to an extent, but I managed to find some confidence after years of not having any, and things changed a lot after that.

I will tell you WHY you lost it, and why things have been so hard for you, and then how you can change it.

You lost your confidence because you bet all your chips on a single girl. That's kind of like entering a raffle by buying a single ticket: your odds of winning are much lower than guys who buy 20 at a time; that's simple math. Plus, you had questionable confidence and poor selection skills, so you were almost doomed to start with.

Here's how you learn to change this: get yourself fixed up, and go somewhere that has a bunch of single women. If you can avoid regular meat-market bars and clubs, so much the better, because unless you are a rock star, those are the places with the most competition. Better a sports bar, pool hall, bowling alley, or other activity where it isn't so obviously a meat market.

Then, you go ask EVERY attractive girl for a date. ASSUME you are going to fail every time, so going into it, you are completely prepared to fail and you no longer care if you do. By NOT CARING about failure, you will actually be far more confident when you ask them. Look them in the eye, smile, introduce yourself, tell them that you find them to be very attractive, and ask them if they'd like to go out on a date with you.

Yes, most of them will probably say "no." THAT'S OKAY. We expected a lot of no's, and it's largely a numbers game when you are inexperienced and lack confidence. But if you ask 20 girls, you'll probably get at least one "yes." Even if you have to ask 40 girls to get a yes, you can probably have a date in less than 2 weeks. It doesn't matter if she's your perfect, ideal girl, you just need some dating experience. Get to know her on the date, and if it doesn't work out, fine, thank her, and go back to asking out every attractive girl you meet until you get another date. Remember: you EXPECT them to say no, and you DON'T CARE if they do.

After you've had 5 or 6 dates, and have asked out 100 girls, you really WON'T care if you get told "no", because you'll be used to it, and you'll realize that it's easy to forget the "no's" when you've gotten a handful of "yes's." And your confidence will start to soar, and your "yes" percentage will go up as a result. Then, you can start being a bit more picky about who you ask out, evolving your approach to a more targeted method as you gain confidence and experience.

This is EXACTLY what the "popular" guys have done to get girls, and if you put in the time and effort, you can get there too.

You've probably never had AID's, either, dealt with a divorce, or nasty breakups, or child support.

I think you need the manosphere. Seriously. Read Captain Capitalism, Dalrock, and you might find the answers--and the guidance--that you need. Read the article I linked to, you might find it helpful.

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And also, seriously, if you're actually considering suicide...

You realize that gives you "god powers" in real life? You could go skydiving, rob a bank, become a mercenary, whatever you want. Because realistically... if you're at the point where you would welcome death, what is there for you to fear in this life?

To be honest, it could be your attitude. The way you've responded to others answering this question by telling a guy you bet 100$ he wasn't a virgin and telling a girl that she probably slept with more guys than her age (implying that that would be a bad thing) shows that you have a negative and combative attitude to both men and women.

I understand why you're frustrated, I'm going through the same thing myself (19 year old virgin and counting--plus I can't masturbate so I've never had an orgasm) but I know for sure being negative will never get me sex (and just being a girl doesn't automatically get me sex the way guys assume it does) or get any guys to like me.

If you really just want to lose your virginity and don't care about having a relationship with the woman that you lose it to, you can hire a prostitute or have a one night stand with some woman you meet at a club or over the internet.

Try Craigslist. There are a lot of scams, but there are also a lot of real people on that site who want to have sex or want relationships.

If you just want sex, I'm sure there is some kinky woman out there who wants to take a guy's virginity. She may be your age or older and she will not be a virgin and will have had multiple partners. You must be okay with this and not treat her poorly because of it.

If you actually want a relationship to go with the sex, try getting a younger girlfriend. Someone still in college. A shy girl who is also a virgin and nervous about losing her virginity and bad with guys. She'll be more apt to have sex with you knowing that you are a virgin as well since she isn't giving something away but trading it. Neither of you will have any experience, but you can learn together.

A lot of 18 to 23 year old girls are still virgins and are into older guys, so they will forgive your virginity because you're older. You may have to buy her dinner or romance her a bit. Hopefully you can act more mature around them than you did on this question you wrote.

You will probably have to meet this girl on the internet, but not through a paid dating site because a shy girl will not most likely use one.

Sorry for such a long answer and I applaud you if you actually managed to read it all.

Different people just have different strengths. Some people have an easier time interacting with the opposite sex than others do, regardless of age. I'm sure it is difficult to be in your position, but ending your life is certainly not going to improve it. As long as you are living, there is the potential for your life to get better and for you to find happiness. Don't lose hope! Someday you will be glad you kept trying.

If you think you will really feel better if you lose your virginity, you might consider hiring a prostitute. However, I don't think being a virgin in and of itself is really your problem, and so I don't really believe that will help. You are probably more concerned with having the ability to interact with women and build relationships with them. This is something that will take time, practice, and patience. Unfortunately, you just can't expect it to work out right away.

If you feel that you are struggling to make platonic friends as well, then I suggest you start there. It will help you enjoy life and give you a confidence boost, making you more attractive to women and all the while giving you the chance to practice and hone your social skills. Work on meeting people by taking up a new hobby, joining clubs or groups, or signing up for classes. This is also a good way to start meeting women, but focusing on friends first may be a good idea.

You just have to have the right approach and try to actually Talk to girls and introduce yourself. Surround yourself with girls and see what happens a month later.