Side effects of tease and denial.

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Last time I ended up being on top in bed I kind of wanted to make the most of it. Well, actually I don't know what got into me ;). Anyway, I "secured" my position by placing my knees onto his upper arms and started to "caress" his lumbar regions to keep him weak. Maybe this worked out a little to well. As he began to twitch down there I stopped. I switched from stroking him and just holding his wrists down while saying degrading things for quite a while. I did not give too much thought to this so maybe I took it too far. I'm pretty sure the constant sexual arousal did not allow him to fight me. He propably enjoyed that part, but being so helpless at my mercy must have been humiliating. He keeps on talking about how I'd continue to treat him like this, but I'm sure whether he just acts this way to "preempt" me. Or do you think I may have touched a nerve and he really wants to be subdued by me more often now? (I surely would do him the favor :D)

LauraMarx · Accepted Answer

oh gosh. [fans self]

Uhm. Yes. Yes, I think you should do that with him more often. :) I am such a vulgar paraphilic Ii cannot imagine sex without being teased & denied, you know. My girlfriend is a lot like you. When I get close, and she always knows when I get close, she stops and grabs my wrists so I can't touch myself. After maybe an hour of that - oh god! - she'll take me just over the edge and then stop, and my muscles will clench up and I'll gyrate and I'll soak myself but feel nothing and it is wonderful. You should try that - ruin his orgasm.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

I'd strongly suggest that you have a candid conversation about it with him but NOT in or near the bedroom.  Take him out for a drink at a cozy place and just ask him what went through his mind.  The shut up and wait for his answer.  It may take some time but just sit there and wait.  You'll learn a LOT from his answer.

ladsin · Accepted Answer

sounds like he liked it... I mean if I started freaking out I'm pretty sure I could get you off... of me XP

HandsomeRaj · Answer

He liked it for sure :) I however, dislike being teased the general way people perceive teasing (I know it's a put off for most women) - can't help it, that's me :D

MyNameIsJonas · Answer

You have to talk about your sex in order to know. For I instance I do the same thing for the girl I'm seeing now (rough subduing and dirty talk) and we had a conversation afterward about what she enjoyed and did not. She asked me about the dirty things I would call her and if it reflected how I felt about her ( which it did not) so she is quite turned on by it. Its good to get everything out in the open. Communication is important.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

Sounds like he enjoyed it.

Hanrej · Answer

Won't hurt to test him a bit more if you both enjoyed it.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like you know what your doing

Anonymous · Answer

I think he loved it.

Side effects of tease and denial.

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