She said how sorry she was and so on. I sent a nice reply saying we should catch up. Her reply was that she was shocked I even responded. She thought I was still mad at her for everything. She wrote me with the intention that I wouldn't respond. She says she can't catch up because of her bf.
An hour later she calls saying her bf let her. She claims it was a closure phone call after a year of our break up. She was concerned how I felt about her and told me to stop hating her. She also said when we hang up we won't talk again for awhile because of her bf. She was so excited to talk to me and when I cut the call short she sounded sad.
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It sounds like she still has an emotional attachment to you. Which she should not.
Maybe she's confused about her feelings, and also feels guilty about things from the past, and is trying to "make things right" between you both, to rid her feelings of guilt. She's probably a pretty caring person, but what she is doing is innapropriate, she should not be contacting you anymore, as after any relationship, there are always residual feelings there, but no matter how minor those feelings are, it is a bad idea to re-open communication again.
I'd avoid contact with her completely. If she does contact you again, just tell her that you are now seeing someone, and you would like to respect the person you are with, and you also respect her relationship too, so you think it would be best to end communication there, and wish her all the best. Doing that would also be respectful to yourself.
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I agree with the other comment. She may be looking for options just in case so checking to see where you are. Don't let her mess with your head. I have been there and it is not nice. This could send you back to all the pain you had in the past.
Don't look at Facebook to much. We all can use it to play games.
I will ask you one question - tonight, she is making love to her boyfriend. What will she be thinking? If her thoughts are with you, she would be with you now. I had to tell myself this story to see the real picture.
Focus on you!!! Its always easy for her to seek out an ex. Especially if she dumped you. You will still have 'hope' if/what.
I've been there before.
Hit the gym, focus on you, become a better, fitter man and meet other girls, Learn from this and before long you will be happy and she will hate to see you in that place. But do this for you and for your life.