My ex and I broke up a little over two weeks ago (we dated for about 7 1/2 months). The relationship was bad timing for him (he graduates later this year and with his career he doesn't know where he will be moving to because his future is so unpredictable and he doesn't want to put me through that) and he doesn't want a long term relationship until he knows his life and career path. He said he had a fantastic time dating me and it made his school year a lot better. He still wants me as his best friend though.
We made it clear that we will still have feelings for each other for awhile but we can't really act on it as of right now. But we talk ALL THE TIME. It was almost as if we never broke up, except we don't do the kissing or anything like that. I never initiate the contact anymore, he does. We still hang out a lot too and he still flirts with me too.
I honestly don't think this is healthy for us and that we can't just be best friends if there were no problems in the relationship and we both said feelings would still be there. What do you all think?
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Short answer: possibly
Longer answer: It is possible, but rather unlikely. I've noticed among people I know or have observed that there are three likely scenarios when hanging around ex's.
1) Fast forward a few months or a year and the two of them hate each other's guts.
2) Fast forward a few months or a year and one of them gets his or her heart broken all over again when the other starts a relationship with someone else.
3) Fast forward a few months or a year and they are still friends.
Sadly, 1 and 2 seem to be the most likely outcomes. I don't know why, but it just happens that way.0
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