My ex broke up with me about a month ago because of a conflict in life and career goals though he won't be moving away for at least another 8 months. He said he'd rather do it now than later because it would be a greater chance of me remaining a friend and also he said he isn't ready for a long term relationship until he gets his life and career together. He promised he wouldn't be interested in or in another relationship with another girl for a long time. He said everything we had will still be there and he is not leaving me or anything that we had behind. But everything isn't there. He said it will be hard for him because I'm such an incredible girl and an incredible all-around person and he said he honestly liked me a lot.
We don't talk as much and we don't hang as much as we did the past couple of weeks. I was with him at his dad's today and he didn't tell him we broke up yet so we had to act like we were together still. He tells me about the Tinder account he has and about his time on the dance floor at a bar this past weekend. I saw him snapchatting an "ex" that he told me that he didn't care about while we were dating. He cut all ties with her off before me and him started dating so they didn't speak for at least 8 1/2 months though she tried contacting him. He doesn't know that I saw him. I know we're both single, but to me it's too early for him to talk to me about those things. Also with the "ex", I have always suspected he wasn't fully over her but made the mistake of never asking him about it while we dated so him talking to her now, it seems like to me that I was right the whole time and I feel awful thinking about it.
But while we were dating, he treated me amazingly and we were each other's best friends. I still love and care about him so much. It's just after the break up that all this drama started.
So with all this said, should I cut off ties with him at least for awhile? Talk to him about this? What should I do?
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It's sad and I know you must be hurt. Take this as a chance to grow in mind and spirit. Don't limit yourself over a promise. the only promise we can be sure to keep is those we fulfill ourselves, when we really put our all into it. I'm assure you it will be fine. at first it might be tough, over time things will get better. let it go, if it comes back to you it's yours if it doesn't it never was. It is not fair for either of you to isolate yourselves from the rest of the world. things change and so do people0