I was engaged a few years ago. Loved the woman to death. But she left me. 7 years later she comes back trying to patch things up. 6 years of partying, 6 years of her sleeping around. She put on a good 40+ pounds as well.
I turned her down because honestly those years we could have spent building a relationship. Yet she decided to hand herself out to everyone else and party.
Now she comes back and wants to hand me the left overs now she's out of shape and been around the block enough times to confuse NASCAR fans into thinking she is the indie 500.
And before you judge, Im in better shape than I was before.
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If you're sole reason for ending the relationship was due to her weight gain then yes, I would totally call you an asshole. But it sounds like the relationship primarily ended because she left you so that she could shamelessly appreciate the single life and that's TACKY. That was wrong on her part to abandon a good situation where her man loved her to death so that she could go party and experience sex with other men then she went back to you, expecting you to hold out for her after all this time. Correct? That's low down dirty and not cool at all. That alone is enough justification for you to not want to be with her ever again.
But yes, it is superficial and shallow for you if you think that her weight should be a deciding factor. It means that your bond wasn't all that strong because if it was then you would be willing to work with her through her weight gain. Nonetheless, seems like an unhealthy situation and I think it would be best for you to get out of it and move forward with your life.0