Monday was me and my girls 4 months. Me and this girl have been up and down throughout this whole thing. But I was willing to stick through that bad to get to the good. Cause she meant the world to
Me, I'd give up anything to make sure she was happy.
The reason we went up and down varied. More times than most it was because of me. Isn't it always the guys fault though? First time she broke up with me cause I was a stoner crook and I see that now, she changed me, showed me. The rest of the times was either me having a problem with some mystery dude. Multiple of them. And the rest were her taking breaks and talking to another guy.
So yesterday, she asked me to change my profile picture to one of us, so I did. I thought it would be cute, so I went to change hers too. When I logged onto her Facebook, she was logged on too.
A couple seconds on her account and a message popped up and it was bad. So I snooped, who wouldn't? And she goes through my stuff whenever she can so I'm not worried. But a yea it was bad, scheming in such a unfaithful way.
But anyway I went to meet her at church that night as she messaged me she wasn't going. Bitch, gas is at 4.50 a gallon. I ain't drive out to this church for nothing. So eventually she got up there and I confronted her.
It went something like:
A-Can I talk to you?
A-I think that we shouldn't see eachother anymore, it's just not fair. I'd never do that to you.
A-I seen the messages.
B-I don't trust you now
A- don't try and act innocent, being real with me would do you more than being fake.
B-that's where we're different, I like messing with people.
So what's left to ask is will you please help. I love this girl so much, but she keeps doing this to me. And I can't lose her. Help me answer some Q's
Did I do the right thing?
How can I help her?
If she does change around, how do I fix this?
Should I tell her mom?
Most Helpful Girl
First off... it is not for you to fix her but try and participate in fixing the relationship but first you must ask her the question , does she want or willing to help fix it. She excepted you as you were first off... that meant something to her to be with you regardless of being a stoner/ crook she showed you she cared...secondly talk about you was stoner/ crook I would think this also may have come with a certain type of behavior ( I could be wrong) which may have contributed to her her behavior with mystery men etc. ( again I could be wrong). Yet the question I would ask you is... Do you if she had other men when you met her...did you know anything about her before she became your woman. Whatever the case what sticks in your mind is that she held you down regardless of what you consider your imperfections. This being said then if you truly want her on your side you know what you need to be doin... ask shorty if she wants this straight up...real talk and when she answer...man up you know what to do...YOU KNOW...Respects
Most Helpful Guy
She is leading you on. If you really think she has some mental disorder you might consider getting her to go to therapy. But if she is talking to other guys behind your back and everything else, then you have more serious issues. If she is being fake and lying, then she has no respect for you or your relationship.
You are hanging on to someone who does not care about you at all. You say she loves you, well no offense, but I love you is three words. Actions speak louder than words when it comes to saying things like that. People throw around a lot of things they dont mean. If she loved you, she wouldn't be doing this.
You already know the answer to these questions, if you didn't you wouldn't have broken up with her.
You met her at Church? Really?