My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday. We still love each other a lot, but lately I've been acting insecure and I was really whiny because the urge to make her happy became a pain in the ass as it was more about proving myself that I'm worthy to have such a perfect girl than about actually caring about her. I don't have much self-confidence and she's the best looking and sweetest girl I've ever met. We were friends for 4 years or so (btw I always wanted to be her boyfriend) then we got really close and fell in love in November. We were together for 6 months. I've got some personality issues, like being unable to think before I speak when I'm mad and so on.. She fed up with my behavior once but I showed her that I'm still as loving and nice as I was when we got together. Everything was great for 2 months then she dumped me again yesterday.. she told me that she no longer feels that "thing" and that she needs a man she can rely on. Her father left her with her unmanly, whiny older brother and her mom, so she had to rely on herself. She told me that lately she felt the same on my side and she's falling out of love. Yesterday night she arrived from work and we talked on facebook. It wasn't sloppy or anything, it was actually fun. I told her that I miss her but she didn't care about it, so we just kept on messaging. Then she went to bed and sent me a text message saying she misses me. I wrote back that I miss her, love her and asked if she felt awful too. She'll probably text me or message me on Facebook in half an hour 'cause that's when she's leaving her workplace. All we know is that she wants to stay in touch and that she misses me and surely loves me still. What should I do? Should I give her some time while maintaining a friendly contact? I really want her back. I don't believe in the no contact rule or any mind games like that. I want to be honest with her..
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im going through this with my man. how you describe yourself, reminds me of him. i still love him and i'd love to be with him. but i refuse to be with someone that keeps disappointing me & he's really insecure and gets jealous easily. when he gets jealous or upset he ignores me. but anyways, if she's worth it change your attitude and how you handle things. if not move on & don't keep that "friendly" relationship, you need space to get over someone.1