Although really, towards the end, it was clear that neither of us were what the other wanted or needed - he got serious crazy fast and has admitted to the fact that he has really low self esteem and needs a lot of reassurance and affection from a girlfriend... and I'm much more reserved and laidback and need my own space in a relationship - it was a total clash of personalities. This is what I told him was my reason for breaking up with him - that and I wasn't sure that I even wanted to be in a relationship, I just wasn't cut out for it, liked being on my own too much, blah blah blah. I had many, many other reasons but I wanted to cause as little hurt as possible, so I didn't blame him for anything.
The thing is, he was clearly unhappy as well, but he insisted on putting me on a pedestal and blaming himself for absolutely everything. I have spent two entire sleepless nights talking to him about it, and literally dozens upon dozens of emails back and forth. Every once in a while, after one of these rounds of constant emails, he seems to come to terms with it and says he accepts it and will try to move on. But a week later, he's emailing me again, the exact same things as before.
Now he's really depressed, he's mentioned wanting to die a couple of times, and I don't know what to do. To be honest, he was really depressed before I met him (even though he hid it from me for a long time) but obviously I didn't make things any better.
It's a really messed up, toxic situation. Do I respond to his emails, even though I have so, so many times already, and it hasn't helped a bit? Or just ignore it?
Most Helpful Guy
You aren't responsible for his moods, his sense of well-being or his entertainment. Remain polite, but let him know you're too busy. If you truly feel he's seriously suicidal, tell a member of his family.
Most Helpful Girl
I'm not reading your whole book, so I'll respond to the first thing. Block his emails. You moved on, he will move on eventually. Ignore him.