Recently in our relationship he lost his desire for sex more than once every week or 2. I know lots of people will say that's a pretty standard number, but that's the cherry on top of how i had a bad reaction to birth control which he knew about, didn't enjoy unprotected sex because he found it hard to not finish too soon, yet didn't tell me and i felt like shit for a month straight.
He's begging for me to reconsider now that I let him know about my frustration, but I told him I don't want sex if it's not sincerely wanted from both ends. And if we're only having sex when he wants it due to him never being dtf when i try to initiate, it seems like a lot of unnecessary stress.
Have you or anyone you know ever broken up with someone due to differences in libido? How did that work out?
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Sex is one of those things that most people take for granted in a relationship. It is often put to the side as one of those things that is just supposed to work itself out because no one wants to talk about it. Having mismatched sex drives is really not different from having different interests. For someone like me, having rather similar interests is incredibly important. I want a girlfriend that will go do things with me and enjoy them because she enjoys them, not just cause I'm there with her. So for me, if our sex drives don't match up there is a problem. If she wants it more than I do, I feel pressured to stay in when I want to go do other things. If I want it more than she does, then I feel that I am pressuring her. It's never really a good situation.
What it comes down to is this: are you being satisfied? Are your needs being met? If he is meeting them then there is no cause to break up. If you feel unfulfilled and feel like you need more, then that is an incredibly valid reason for breaking up. At that point, it just isn't working out and there is no need to try and force it.0