hello, My sons father, my son and i are currently living in my moms temporally. we were suppose to be saving money for a house and our future. we are not engaged yet and we have been together what would of been next month 7 years. i've been talking a lot about getting engaged so we can get married, because its been so long and we have a child. I recently caught him being interested in another girl, he was texting her and i tried to kick him out. but my mother is letting him stay till he finds another place to live. He broke up with me and is confused on what he wants, he says he thinks he loves me but he can't stand me half the time. He says why should we go on pretending everythings fine? He also still texts me on his lunch break to see how i am, and tells me wheres going. I don't' text him first and i don't ask to know his whereabouts. I"m so confused how he could do this. He said he wants his own space and i should of never snooped or we wouldn't be going through this. He is completely negative about everything and I've tried to explain the positives and everything i've done for him and our son. He resents me for going to school. But i graduate Tuesday and i'm looking for a job as i promised. he also keeps saying he didn't want a family, i choose that for us when i got pregnant. He loves our son but i forced him into growing up and providing for our family when i choose to keep our child. He's 30 may i add, and our son is 3. He was into drugs bad up till age 28 and we choose to move an hour away so he could get better. he got sober, got a great job, and improved himself so much. He was 28 partying with 21 and 22 year olds, he was in and out of bands, he was majorly into drugs. when i got pregnant i choose to keep it because if we were stupid enough to get pregnant then we needed to take responsibility. its been the hardest road but i always stuck by him and helped him. Why is he choosing to leave our family instead of commit? its always been me and him.
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It sounds like he has not yet matured from his former lifestyle. He was able to quit the drugs. But he is not ready for the responsibility of a family.
In my opinion. He does need some space to get his head together and decide what he wants to do. Hopefully he will make the right decision and stay to raise the boy with you. But I doubt it.
The sad part about this is you may very well end up raising your child on your own.
Blaming you for getting pregnant is stupidity. He was there too obviously. And birth control is his responsibility as well as yours.
He is in a position he does not want to be in. He is being selfish. He needs to either suck it up and be a man about this or go on his way.
If he goes. Do not let him go without him giving you money every month to assist in expenses for your child.
Quite honestly he sounds like a bit of a dink. You would likely be better off without him.0