Hi. I met this guy 9 months ago. He is 22 and I am 25. We fell in love with each other.
One month after we met he asked me on a date. I accepted, and the date was amazing. We went out for dinner (during which we admitted we liked each other), then we went to some bars and at the end of the night he took me home and he kissed me. I knew the moment he kissed me, that it was his first kiss (he didn't know what to do and he was too nervous; later he told me it was his first kiss).We dated for 7 months... 7 months of a great relationship (at least I thought so). We were best friends and we had a lot of chemistry. I never had anything like this before... all this attraction and all this caring. He introduced me to his parents and sister and he wanted to take me to "the family day" and introduce me to all his family. I was his "love and pride" as he said to me.
The only problem we had was our stupid arguments... he would often express himself wrong and I would get disappointed because I understood something different than what he meant. In fact, one of this situations lead to a break up. I didn't have any option rather than break up, because he said something cruel and he didn't try to make it right.
Two days after the breakup he wrote to me that he lost the best girlfriend ever and asked to talk. Back then I was to hurt and needed some more time to heal, so I said no. We met 1 wk after the breakup and he said he didn't know if he wanted to try again. That he didn't feel like it. We talked and at the end he was hugging me and kissing me. We met again 1 wk later, and again he said he was not sure... but again, he hugged me and kissed me and we had sex... and he didn't know what he wanted anymore. 4 days passed and I confronted him. He said he was not sure about us anymore. I asked him if he loved me, he said yes. But the feeling was less intense. We tried a 2nd time and he 2 wks later he broke up cause the feelings were not there. Can someone tell me what happened? :(
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Seems like he loved you because of the way you made him feel and as you now probably know feelings never last forever. Because the feeling went away he eigther no longer loves you or no longer realizes he still does.
If he genuinely loves you for who you are you two can get back together. He would have to accept that he won't feel things anymore (At least for a while but possibly forever). He would need to love you for who you are as a person and be your boyfriend purely based on that.
If he thought he loved you because of the way you made him feel it is probably better if you let go. Things won't be the same anymore.
Personally for me my feelings go up and down all the time. Usually every two weeks i am crazy in love (Even when there is nobody to love) or completely feeling less.
My advice to you if you wan't him back is ask him him if he can still love you for who you are. If he really thinks you are a great person and if he could be with you for just that. If he says no let him go.0
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