I've been with my ex girlfriend for five years. We have a long distance relationship, but we never honestly cared about it in the beginning. I did fall in love with her right away, it was all about her personality, her voice, her laughter, no matter what I always got the butterflies whenever we talked, and so we hit it off, and moved our friendship a little more further. We started meeting each other in person, for three years. It was great, amazing, almost perfect every time we were together.
But then, things started to fall apart, as soon as my ex got a job. She started working with a few guys, and soon started to love the attention she was getting. Even though I'm not around, I can see how she can enjoy having some heads turn her way. However, what makes this all difficult for me to swallow, is the fact that she never openly acknowledges her relationship with me. My ex, was slightly embarrassed, because her co-workers were bashing her about it, including me. When she told me this, I assured her that none of things were true, because they don't know us like we know each other! I don't know if those words stayed true, because after that, some of these guys were flirting with her, teasing her, and touching her (Non sexually), I'm not saying all of them, but only a few. My ex, even made friends with one of them who I despise, because of the way he has completely disrespected our relationship including me. My ex never said anything or took actions. Instead she plays some game with him online. It's hard for me to trust her, because she doesn't respect my boundaries. I even told her I wasn't comfortable with any of this. All this happened when I went to visit her in NY. When I was there, she also went out to eat with him, because he was giving her a ride to the bus stop. When I went back to FL. things weren't the same, and I had a feeling she was seeing someone else. Ex: Search history, "I love my bf, but like someone else". "Urge to kiss someone".
Most Helpful Girl
I say you give her time to figure out what she wants. She seems confused but leaving you hanging is wrong, one day just ask her what she really feels for you so you know and if she lets you down for another guy, it's better than her seeing both of you at the same time.. so just ask but sometimes the truth hurts.1
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Dude I promise you she's done. This is probably her way of lettin you done easy by saying "let's take a break". I've been told this by girls before and it always ends up with them dating other guys. They'll always come back around if they don't find someone better than you but that's girls for ya. Summer-omo- is right though. She could be breaking up with you for any of those reasons.
What's my advice? Let her leave if that's what she wants. You can't do anything to get her back. You've had her for years and nothing will change her mind, nothing. You can't do anything about it. She'll decide if she wants to come back or not and from there you can decide if you want her back or not. Think about it, you've been with her for years and from my experience with relationships with women, especially 25 and under, they always want to experience other guys. They want to discover of there are other Better guys out there. You were with her for 5 years and that's all she knows.. She wants to be single again or know what it feels like to flirt and be with other men. So you need to kick that to the curb. Let her know if this is what she truly wants, you won't be around if she decides to come back. Be a man a stick up for your dignity. If she is TRULY needing some space which I doubt then sure, you can respect that but it she's out with other guys, i would never take her back. If it was me, I'd consider it a loss and move on to a girl who won't want to leave you. You offered her a solid relationship and she threw it away, you don't deserve that bro. I'm not saying getting Over her will be easy cause you've been together for many years but you have no other choice. You have to do this for yourself man. You deserve better1