My boyfriend and I broke up 3 weeks ago.
Immediately after the breakup, he told me that he wasn't sure of our decision. I agreed to take some time to think about it.
Two weeks of silence followed. I used to bump into him during the weekend because we hang out at the same places. He was drunk almost every time. At first we sat and talked for like half and hour when we saw each other.
But then I asked him if we could stop talking to each other at all because I needed to move on. He agreed, even though he wasn't happy about it.
A week later, I bump into him again and just wave hi with a smile (in order to implement the No Contact rule :P). I think he took it badly because the next day he calls me and asks if we could talk.
I agreed to have a drink with him, and he said he wanted me back. His friends made him realize that I was the one who allowed him to be stable (he has problems in his life) and that he was stupid to let me go.
We had a great evening and we talked about everything that was wrong in our relationship and how to fix it. He texted me casually the next day.
I'm just not sure if his intentions are really good. Should I wait to see if he's going to put enough effort in winning me back? Or is it obvious that I have to let him go?
What do you think?
- Take him back!!Vote A
- He's an asshole let him go...Vote B
- Wait and see.Vote C
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If you go back to this guy you'll spend all of your time making sure he's all right and the focus will always be on him, which is not the way relationships are supposed to go if you want them to be happy ones. The evidence you talked about was this: after the breakup, he couldn't handle it (you saw him drunk a lot); he had to be talked into continuing the relationship by his friends, not something he came up with on his own; and he immediately went back to a casual attitude instead of showing signs of extra affection or any other change in behavior.
You sound like you spend a lot more time thinking about the health of your relationship than he does. You said his friends told him you kept him stable while you were together. All this adds up to you being more if a caretaker than a partner. It's time to find someone better.1