I've known my ex since I was 13 (he was 14). A teenagers, we dared for three years. I went to college and we reconnected at 23 and dated for 8 years as adults. He was a great man to me--attentive, available, loving... we were completely in love. We broke up in 2012 (he became distant and seemed as though he didn't want the relationship anymore-he kind of walked away). He'd call every blue moon and like things on FB... but we really didn't talk for over a year and a half. He recently contacted me again: we talked (he said he realized we were meant to be and he'd never leave me again), hung out an became close again (we saw one another almost everyday). He even talked about moving in together soon. After a little over a month, he became distant again. Wouldn't answer or respond to texts or calls. I was completely shut out. Tired of this behavior, I went to his house unannounced and confronted him. After three minutes of silence (it took the world for him to tell me), he admitted he fathered a child while we were broken up and he just found out the child was actually his (up to this point, we were childless). I was devastated. We both cried and he claimed he wanted to be with me an get married one day. He said he wanted to make things right with "us". I told him that night the he needed to fight for us like never before if he really meant it. Since then, I haven't heard a word from him in over a week. I tried to call and text-no response whatsoever. I understand he's shocked and dealing with being a father but...
What's a broken hearted woman to do? I do feel we are meant to be but shutting me out and ignoring me (this has happened before) makes me so frustrated and leaves me feeling rejected.
Please help... do I leave this 20 year friendship/relationship or fight?
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Don't fight for someone who won't fight for you. Sounds like he's really struggling with where his priorities are right now. I think after going to his house to confront him, you've done what you can do. The ball is in his court now. I think you watch and wait and see what decision he makes.1