How long does it take to get over a 4 year relationship?

this guy i like got out of a 4 year relationship 6 months ago, i know he's still in love with her so im being cautious with my feelings because i dont want to get hurt...

weve hooked up and i know he likes me but i also know hed drop everything for his ex if she asked him to

i can't decide if i should just leave it or wait for him

he's fucking perfect for me and i really like him, but im not about to fall in love with someone whos still in love with his ex
  • 6 months
    Vote A
  • 1 year
    Vote B
  • 1 year and a half
    Vote C
  • 2 years
    Vote D
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What Guys Said 1

  • It is based upon the person and the contact you have with the other person. If you really want to get over him, My sister said: Text him and let him know you want to be friends but you need sometime away from him if you want to be friends one day.. Don't let him talk you out of it. Move on and don't answer any calls. Don't listen to any messages or read any texts. Don't see him. Stay away until you go weeks without thinking about him. Live your life as if he never existed. Try not to think about him. Occupy your mind with things that challenge your mind. Try not to have periods of time when you don't have anything to think about so you will not think of him. Do things to make you happy. Don't do or say anything that will make you think of him. Stop talking about him to people once the initial pain of the break up is over. (The time period when you may be very emotional, think you can't live without them and want to call or text them constantly) Don't date anyone else until your over your ex boyfriend. After you can go weeks without thinking about him at all and can take him or leave him, then you may want to call him and ask if he wants to be friends. However be careful of your contact with him because if your not completely over him, the feelings will return. And if that happens, tell him your not ready and repeat the process over again. My sister said: This has helped her get over every ex boyfriend she's had and gave me the same advice which worked for me as well. She said time helps more when you don't use that time thinking about your ex.


What Girls Said 1

  • Depends on whether she was the love of his life. If so-it may take many many years and maybe he will never get over her. Your biggest threat is that they could easily get back together.


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