We met a year ago it was amazing from day one. She was separating from her husband who moved out only after he tracked her to my house. She gave up tons of money, huge house etc to be with me. I am no bum but nothing to what she had. It was like we were high school again it was so perfect. We always say God brought us together. I am pretty broken she had a bad marriage we picked up where the other didn't. She has children so do I and we built this nice family together. She surprised me a few months ago with her one and only tattoo of my name on her wrist. It is honestly like we were meant for each other. We share all the same likes and dislikes I feel I met my twin.
She is the type to text I love and miss you 100x a day I can't stand the constant need for attention she's 40
About a month ago she who never goes out said she had to help her mom with her dying dad. She wouldn't call only text here and tgere. She got home at 3 am. When sleeping I saw a text convo that was sexual and pix sent. I packed up she got mad I looked at her phone then begged me for 3 hours to stay. She said it was nice to have someone pay attention to her. I was told she texted him the following day that she can't talk anymore and it was a mistake. I saw someone just devastated. I gave her a chance the next two weeks were great to only find out they talk on her way to work everyday. We fought once again told he's just an old friend and now blocked. We hung out two days with no promises of getting back together. She said she will prove to me I can trust her. I found a text convo to another guy 3 days ago. They are all listed under girls names in her phone. I told her I am done I was holding onto the good memories but now can't even look at her.
Why over the past 3 days is she begging me to not give up on our family? That she's sorry it was never physical she will go to a shrink She loves me I complete her she will change etc. why is she truly devastated? Guilt or sorry?
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I suspect she is someone who enjoys the early infatuation stage of a relationship. It's what probably made your relationship in the beginning seem so meant to be and maybe for her that element has died a little and replaced with love, which is different from infatuation/lust. As such, that can be very addictive and maybe she is searching for that.
I suggest that instead of focusing on the number of people and what was said and done, you ask her why and what is missing from your relationship that she is seeking this out and now lying.