I dated this guy for three years and he proposed to me two months ago in which I said absolutely yes. I broke it off six days ago because I found out he cheated on me with a girl at his work who was married. Once a cheater always a cheater. I told him it was over and this was unforgivable. Once everyone found out they all just told me to suck it up and I was overreacting. He keeps telling me he was sorry and he still really loves me. He didn't even change his Facebook status and once he saw mine he immediately called me and kept asking are you sure? Please come back. Or saying he was infatuated with her.
I don't care I'm not going to marry someone I cannot trust and I sure as hell don't want to be cheated on again once we are married. I told everyone this but they were taken aback by my answer all telling me to forgive him. Even the woman who is going through divorce told me she was sorry and to marry him. Should I just forgive him and suck it up?
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I can't tell you if it's right what you did or not. But I definitely can tell you that you are chasing something that doesn't exist in this world: Certainty. No matter who you are with and for how long, they'll have their dark secrets - an experience you just made. If you think that you would feel paranoid in a life with him, then I have bad news for you: Statistically there's a 65% chance that you will be cheated on once you're married.
"Unforgiveable" is a term I dislike. Because we normally use it for things that hurt our pride. Reconsider the whole case under a more realistic view: You will never have certainty that your husband won't cheat on you; it's actually likely to happen.
You will know what to do, but don't even try to chase anything even close to "certainty"; it doesn't exist.0