So was dating this girl for 7 months and through that time I genuinely wasn't very happy with the relationship I thought I loved her but as it went on I realised that she was making me feel bad through comparing me to her ex's and talking about all the other guys she had seen. I told her I don't really like it as I'm very jealous and it makes me upset to think of you with someone else but she didn't understand why it would but she did cut down on it a lot.
Every time something like this happened she would argue back at me and make me feel guilty for making her feel bad. I had enough and left her after getting out of a depressive slump and realising she wasn't helping me but hurting me. I miss her a lot and wish we could have made it work but she wasn't right for me and I knew it.
She eventually apologised for all the pain she made me feel (I had panic attacks after some of the things she said) and I thought oh great! This is the first step to up being back together. I then said I wanted some time apart from her (from talking to her) to get my head straight and try and figure out what I really wanted.
A couple weeks into the time apart and I see she is making posts about me with her friends saying "*username* is such a twat for dumping you", "he's a complete asshole" and she even called me an asshole.
I don't understand what I've done wrong. I broke up with her because she hurt me but yet I'm the bad guy :/ I don't want people to think bad of me and I thought she realised that she hurt me but she obviously doesn't :/
What do I do? I know I shouldn't look at the posts but should I speak to her and say it's unfair or i don't know I'm just really upset about it and wanted to vent tbh :( sorry
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To be honest her friends probably got a different story and she doesn't sound like she's a great person herself. Most girls aren't too happy after getting dumped and that's probably why she's saying those things. You seem like a nice guy, and if I were you I would try to stay away from her. It's hard, trust me I know. Just give her the time apart from you that she needs and you take your time, and if you both still feel the same after a while then you can try to work things out again.0