Most Helpful Guy
I don't know? Being friends with an ex is a slippery slope. For one, your next boyfriend/girlfriend won't like the idea one bit. It's probably because once you've gone there, it is a lot easier to go back and old feelings to get drummed up. I can say that my ex wife and I divorced amicably, but I have no interest in being her friend. She still calls me to see how I'm doing, but I never call her. I have absolutely zero feelings for her, but I still have no desire to be friends with her either. I'm sure it's possible to just be friends with an ex, but I just think it's the best idea. One might develop feelings the other doesn't have, etc. I just think it's better once you break up to just go your separate ways. That's just me though. I have remained friends with one girl, but I don't see her as an ex. We have had several flings over the years and have had sex on multiple occasions, but she was always my friend and then we hooked up drunk one night and had a fling for a while. It's been easy to stay close to her but that's it in my experience.
Most Helpful Girl
Many times couples split and have found that, even After a long while they---Can't live with one another, can't live without one another. This Is Obviously the case with you both right now.
However, there may be this 'Stipulation' and some same or not so same feeling, that 'Friends with or with no benefits' is the only things At the moment. No crossing 'any boundaries... Hard to do sometimes... especially if only One party is feeling this way.. at least for the time being.
As much as you are wishing things could go back to the way they used to be, or even, as I see, you wish he Had these 'same similarities,' he just May be feeling them, but soon to Admit them. Think about this. He appears to really want to be with you, see you, do things with you, but is playing it safe right now with the 'friend factor.' And nothing wrong with this. I have always believed the best way to rekindle any old relationship, or even start One is to be friends. Nurture and nurse what you have begun your beguine with, and let Old Mother Nature sow the seeds in which you wish would be reaped...
Don't push, don't pressure, don't show any signs of a 'mood' that might hinder anything. Go slow with his flow, and in time, see where it is going to take you both. And if it is meant for you both to reunite, then the rekindling just may be better than it ever was before and------ healthier. You both would have not only learned from a few valuable lessons, but will have learned to start with---Friendship.
Good luck, looking good... xx
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