My ex and I broke up after 3 years together, and she's already "crushing" on another guy. I don't find it so easy to just date or have interest in another person so quickly. How easy is it for you guys to date other people and what's the usual "good time" to start dating again?
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I went through a hellish 6 months 3 months ago... I was down right depressed. I got dumped, I got attacked my being University dorm neighbour, and I ended up living such a lonely life locked up in my room almost 24/7, only to go out to my lectures and seminars..
Every Saturday night I was hoping I'd go on a night out and find a special girl I could date, but she never came. As I slipped further into depression, I realised something astonishing: don't expect things to go your way, wait till they do.
Sitting around hoping life gets easier is a waste of time, because more often than not, it won't.
My ex broke up with me after 3 years too , and I felt like utter crap, believe me, but as soon as I found my footing again, as soon as I realised I'm the most important human being on this planet I found a girl who truly appreciates me for who I am, not what I am.
I would tend to say that 4-6 months is enough to get over someone, not forget completely, but to get over them. As soon as you start dating someone else you forget your own self, the guy who was desperate to get back with the ex, or desperate to find someone to fill that gap.
If she's already crushing on someone else, she might of known him, or at least was crushing on him during the end of your relationship - this happened with my ex. She dumped me on New Years day, and a week after I left for my Gap year trip, she told me, over the phone, she was seeing someone else...
A year on I'm dating someone incredible, who understands me, who doesn't get mad at my little quirks, but laughs with them...
You'll always find someone better mate, trust me.2