Is space all that is needed? HELP!?
My husband and I have been together 6 years, been married for three. We are long distance, he is in Australia, Im in the U. S. We are both working towards closing the gap, but we have not seen each other for a year and a half now. I am one of those people that feels its better to leave than be left, and about 5 months ago in a fit of anger I mentioned divorce. He was understandably upset and I admitted that I just wanted a reaction out of him because I was just so tired of being apart, and it wears on you. Fast forward to a month ago and I did the same thing again. I had asked him if he wanted to see me and he told me he thought so. The way he said it was off so I just blew up. You have to understand being 10000 miles away and 16 time zones is really tough, then add in normal drama of everyday life, and being apart and trying to have a marriage is really really hard. He got mad at me, which I completely get and is now refusing to talk to me on the phone. He has been texting me and saying things like he is done, he doesn't want to feel, he will never let me back in again, etc. I told him that I get why he is mad at me and that I made a mistake and that I was sorry. Now he is talking about getting a divorce and says that our marriage is ruined, and cannot be saved. He says things like he is done, and then says things like he doesn't want to hurt me, and maybe if we got a divorce we could start fresh and things would be different. What I am taking from it is that he is angry at me (really angry) and that he is acting from that anger when he tells me stuff like that. I know he loves me, and cares about me deeply, that isn't the question. I just would like to know if someone agrees that he is speaking from anger, not from how he really feels. I do not want to get a divorce, and I've already taken steps to correct my anger issues, what else should/can I do to prove to him that I am not my mistakes? Right now we aren't talking, I felt space was the best thing. PLEASE HELP!
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