It has been a year, LDR due to a one year army service, and I struggled through depression, I lost feelings for her during that long time, but never showed that I did, until she did help me through it, in distance.
She moved to a country that she could be closer to mine, were she could work, and make money, to visit me, while I can't leave mine for a year nor work, and I did appreciate what she was doing, but everything changed the last minute, right before she could come and visit.
Her reasons were that she can't be in a relationship were she's not happy, having doubts, too scared from seriousness, and she knew I took her for granted.
and other uncertain reasons, of course she wouldn't tell me all the reasons, these are just excuses, and I know she didn't cheat on me, but maybe she fancies someone or she lost attraction to me, or she felt better about herself when she started working and depending oh herself, which is good but not a reason.
Maybe I was acting needy, overly attached, while fighting depression and missing her a lot, which made her interpret things the wrong way, that she felt that I was controlling her.. and I knew she started to back away and loose feelings, since we had a big argument (2 months before break up)
cause i was miserable during depression, unsupportive, controlling, over worrying, always complaining, telling her to come visit every while. Yea it was wrong.
Then the way she talked changed, never asks for skype, she complained she hates the way she felt towards me, it was like ups and downs, and i felt she was sometimes testing me, and my neediness. She changed, I know she did loose attraction.
And there is more details that happened
I haven't bad mouthed, yes i did a mistake talking to her parents and her twice after breakup as an apology.
what to do now?
- Wait till she talks about the relationship within a month or else move on
- Move on/Ignore her/untag pictures and tell her that we should move on if she texts
Most Helpful Girl
You can't sit around and hope things will change. She left you and that's the end of the story. That's the basis of any break up. Someone left you and they no longer want you. As much as it hurt, we'll all been there and had to go through it. The good news is, you will survive and get over her but that will only happen when you realize it's finally over, decide that you want to move on and commit to moving on. There's no way around it. You've done enough and this line "She changed," tells me that you know deep down that it's no longer working for her. Which means it should no longer work for you either because you can't be in a broken relationship where only 1 person is willing to make it work. I voted B. This entire situation is too up and down for it to be a relationship worthwhile in the long run. The cracks have started to show already. You need to move on.1