Hey people. So my girlfriend of two years just broke up with me on Saturday because she needs time and space to be single and figure herself out. She said I did nothing wrong and its all her, ans that I am the most wonderful guy ever but ahe needs to break up and be single for now just to figure herself out and what she wants in life. She reassured me many times that no other guy involved, and her sister (who has helped me because she wants us to not break up) told me herself that there isn't another guy involved. I dont understand my girlfriend though. She said she needs time and space cus she is unhappy with herself, and needs to be free and single away from me, family and friends. However, she also said she needs to break up for now to focus on her priorities and what she really wants in life, but then she told me she just needs to miss me and find the spark for me but can't do that with us together. She also said she needs a break from us cus she never had the chance to be single and think for herself, since she never had the chance to because she broke up with her ex two years ago to be with me. (She dumped him for me because he was abusive and controlling). She said she still loves me but needs to break away from us and be single, and is still open to the possibility of us getting back together in the future, but for now she doesn't want to date anyone and just wants to be herself. Maybe i have been to clingy and close with her and had so much plans for our future that she gave up too much of herself to be with me and became unhappy? I dont know. I asked if i had put too much restrictions on her life and she said that I didn't put restrictions on her, but she just needs to figure herself out and figure out what she wants without being in a relationship cus it adds confusion. If we dont end up back together then thats just life but seriously whats up with my girlfriend?
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I can relate to your situation and whats running through her mind. Because I also broke up with my ex, we were together for 5 years. For what looks like to be the same reasons she broke up with you. I had a really rough childhood also. What she wants to do is find herself, discover who she is, and she wants to miss you. What ever you do (I know its hard) Support her, because if you tell her you dont want to break up or you become to clingy you will suffocate her. She will most def stay away from you because you're pushing her away. Your not the problem, she feels the need to explore and maybe her past has to do with it thats why she wants to stay away from family and friends. Just support her, tell her you will be her you will be there for her, and when you do hang out with her as "Friends" make it worth it. Both of you go somewhere you've both haven't been do something new together. Take her mind off of things, Be spontaneous and adventurous. Honestly my ex gave me my space and when we did hang out we did things we didn't do when we were together, it made me happy and miss him. Plus he also enjoyed it. I didn't want another guy I just wanted to find myself, and explore new things. But really try and do new and exciting things when you two hang out, it might not be right away. Good luck!0
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