I asked him what are we in this relationship b/c I didn't feel like I mattered to him anymore. I said "Are we still dating" He replied with "You like to call the shots!" I can never get a definite answer from him. Should I just break up?
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Unfortunately, if you don't feel like you matter to him, its probably the case. If he really cared like you want him to, you would feel it. He can't give you a straight answer to such a simple question and that leads me to believe that he probably doesn't really want to be in the relationship anymore.
Why doesn't he just say it outright? He may not want to do something that actively hurts your feelings, like breaking up with you himself. He thinks that by passively being cold, it will cause you to leave him, absolving him from guilt in hurting you because it was YOUR decision to leave. The fact is, he's hurting you either way.
I believe he's already checked out of the relationship and I think you should too. But it seems you'll have to be the bigger person and make the move because he's not adult enough to do it himself.
It may be tough, but you'll be better off alone than with someone who makes you feel unwanted.0