Okay so we are both in our 20s and have been dating for 8 years. I love my girlfriend more than anything and in that time I have never looked near another girl.
I'm at the point now were I'm completely sexually frustrated. She NEVER instigates sex, I booked us into a top hotel for an all nighter and she feel asleep watching family guy.
I got a bit worried in case she wasn't attracted to me and have been working out hard and now in very good shape and I don't know if she hasn't noticed or hasn't bothered to comment.
We never have fights and I always go out of my way to make sure she is happy. Like I said I love her and we have a great relationship outside the bedroom. I really don't want to end it but I have tried everything to get her interested in the bedroom but generally when I bring it she shrugs it off.
I know she would be devastated if I finished with her, and I know I would have regrets for the rest of my life if I did. This is the only long relationship I've ever been in. Do girls not make efforts for their boyfriends? Dress up in sexy lingerie? Have sex outside the bedroom? I really don't know what to do.
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Only you know the answer to that... but you must talk to her about it... and not just a quick bringing it up sort of way... an important meaningful conversation... you must be open with her and tell her exactly what you want... tell her how it makes you feel that your intimacy seems to be decreasing... then if after you tell her everything she still isn't making an effort then maybe reconsider if you want to be in a relationship with her... if my BF let me know that he wasn't happy in the bedroom I'd make every effort to make him happy... we've only been going out for two years... but I do put in a lot of effort... I wear lingerie... or at least nice underwear sets... basically have sex with him whenever he wants... which is a lot... I would have sex with him outside of the bedroom... but we don't have our own place yet... but we have fooled around in some cars if that counts0