They ended the marriage a few years ago and they don't have kids. He doesn't like her anymore. We met recently so he's been alone for a while. He's older than me by about 12 years I'm 23.
He is definitely very committed to our relationship but I can tell he was hurt by the divorce. The woman left for another man who is rich because my boyfriend took a pay cut to have a less stressful job and him making less money was a strain for her.
It scares me a lot. He said he wants kids and is open to remarry as long as he doesn't feel pressured into it. I would never force him to marry me. But I am scared of how his past will affect him and our relationship. He is a sweet guy and seems to trust me but I still fear.
Can anyone offer some insight?
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Coming from a bad relationship recently, I can provide my POV. He's showing immense care towards you and is bringing up kids with you. He obviously cares a great deal about you. He has put a lot of his pain from his past relationship behind him. Like most people leaving a bad relationship, we look for people that shows us different qualities from our past partners. You showed him you are different from his ex wife. That means a lot. I wouldn't be scared if I was you. Don't focus on his past and try not to think about his ex-wife. Try to be the best you b/c that's the person he cares about. Continue being genuine and honest. Never hide anything beyond surprises for him. Hiding things from a person who has been betrayed is the worst. I'm sure you guys can be happy together.0