My ex boyfriend was arrested on April 27 for domestic violence. he choked me, hit me, and pulled my hair while I was driving my car. there were people around who saw it and called the cops. we were not allowed to speak until June 13, which is when I dropped the charges. I waited a few weeks then contacted him because I felt we needed to have a conversation. we were together for 3 years he was my best friend and I felt he owed me an apology, a thank you, and some sort of closure. I tried contacting him a few times and never heard from him. I was hearing from people that he did not want to talk to me so I figured ill never hear from him again I should move on. towards the beginning of July I hooked up with this guy. he's been a friend of mine for years and means nothing to me romantically but we were both drunk and it happened. it was that one time and I was so ashamed of myself afterwards because I was still in love with my boyfriend. that's not like me, im not that type of girl. I've beat myself up over it ever since because I truly love my ex. so finally 2 weeks ago I heard from him. he texted me saying "ive thought about things and I think its a good idea we talk". so we met up the next day, talked for 2 hours and decided to give this another try but we had to take time to think about everything. then I heard from him again a week ago and he asked to meet again. he said he wanted to be with me and I agreed. I truly love him regardless of what he did that day in my car. I had to be honest with him though, because he asked if I had been with anyone else sexually.. and I couldn't lie to him. I told him the truth. he cried and cried and said he could never be with me again, not even in 5 years, 10 years, or if I bought him a house or a car. he blocked my number and all social media accounts and said he has to forget me and move on. he said I was tainted but that I was his best friend and he wanted to marry me one day. did I really so something horrible?
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First off, I understand you love him, but after what happened, it's probably best to move on. And truly you haven't heard from him or spoke in months, you were single. Having sex whilst you are single shouldn't matter and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. I do understand his upset feelings, b/c he sees you in a light that was meant for him. Being intimate with someone else shows him you didn't value him in the same light he did you. Not fair, but it's true. But in truth, I think it's in both of your interest that you move on. It will take time to move on, but it's best.0
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