So, I've kind of fallen for my ex's friend... at least, his old friend from when we were dating. Let's call him "Al".
The thing is, they aren't good friends anymore. They were roommates when we were dating, then he moved away. Al had a girlfriend at the time, and I was with my ex, so our relationship was completely platonic. He was a really great friend and was always there for me.
My ex and I broke up a year ago... kind of messy, he cheated on me... we are "fine" now but don't hang out or anything. He has a new girlfriend and harbors no feelings for me, and says he just wants me to be happy.
Recently, Al and I have started talking. He now lives in my hometown, so whenever I am visiting home, we get together. We talk probably once every week or two whenever I am not in town.
This past time we hung out, we made out. Afterward, he told me that he really liked me but wasn't comfortable with anything more happening between us unless he knew my ex (his friend) would be okay with it. I know this is kind of a "bro code" thing... he feels like his friend's ex-girlfriend is off limits. But my ex says he wants me to be happy, so I feel like he may be okay with it if he approached it the right way.
So what do I do now? Ever since he moved away, Al and my ex hardly ever talk and haven't seen each other in a long time, but he is a super loyal friend so he doesn't want to piss him off. I understand and respect that... but does that mean there is no possible future between us? Will I always be the girl he isn't allowed to date?
I want to give us a chance!
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He sounds more of gentleman than your ex. It is rare to come by these days. He in really conflicted imo. Just continue doing what you're doing he'll come around.1