My gf and I been together for 2 years or so. In the last few months we took a sharp turn. She has been really unhappy and depressed. It comes down to that I haven't had plans for us and the future and had an emotional connection. She cheated on me with some guy... Already we've had a number of talks about how she is feeling and I kept saying that we need to keep trying. She went to her moms for a bit but came back the next day. I felt like for a few weeks we were doing good. She was laying on me, being close, we were talking close... For a while she'd have her head on my chest, sleep naked together, etc. She initiated a make out sesh and we had sex (after months)... She's been helping me get a new job and concerned about my family and friends. In the last few days she took a sharp turn again, she was reserved, texting privately, taking selfies, and not being close in bed.
Today, I got home and she said she can't do it anymore. She's unhappy. I told her I understand and gave her a big hug. Our kitten was acting very weird, and she said he is stressed because of us. She said she is going to her mom's for the weekend (but fell asleep at home here). We live together... We put on a movie and she fell asleep...
Can I do anything?
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Your best bet might be to let time take its toll, and heal the situation, or even look into couples therapy. Based on the information you have given, I feel like there is more to it than what she's telling you how she feels. There has to be more to it, since the relationship took that quick of a turn in a matter of just a few months.
I must commend you for trying so hard to keep your relationship on the same page, and together. I know so many people that would have broken it off the second she said she was done.
Do you know anything that is happening between her and her friends, family, or even her dad? Unless, she is upset that you didn't have plans for the future, and had an emotional connection. Or in other words you just haven't sorted all that out and openly talked about it with her (or actually just wasn't planning on doing anything in the future, not my business).
Like I said, I recommend looking into couples therapy, and better yet trying to convince her to show up. She will most likely refuse to attend a session, since it's a natural thing to not want help for something like this.
I don't think you both are officially done, but if you two don't continue to try and work things out, it will be 'officially' over sooner than you can expect.
I wish the best for you and your relationship. Good luck. xoxo0
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