Sorry in advance for the length of this question but I would like to put a little backstory into it.
So about 2 months ago my now ex-gf broke up with me, I'll be the first to admit that I took her for granted, I chose my friends over her, started an online dating profile while we were separated a few months before due to me taking a death in the family really hard, and I basically ignored her for a week after I told her I loved her for the first time since reconciliation.
I have realized the error of my ways and I am taking the necessary steps to rectify and change those things about myself, due to the fact that I know that this is the girl that I want to spend the rest of my life with... if she would only have me.
I did the normal things a person goes through after a breakup, I begged, bargained, and swore up and down that I would change if she would take me back (Not attractive I know) to no avail. However, I keep getting mixed signals from her, we have spent some time together, not a lot but some dinners including a nice romantic one I planned out. I know she is scared to get back together, she is a very stubborn girl who has been hurt in the past by other people and she has her defenses up. I know she cares about me but she doesn't want to see that I am a different guy already.
Two days ago we were texting and she told me that she "doesn't know where I belong in her life" and I know she's been on a couple of dates with other guys.
My question is this, what does it all mean? Should I just fade away quietly and know that she is gone? or should I hold out some hope that one day she will come back to me? I have instituted no contact on my own now and it is difficult but if it needs to be done then so be it.
Thank you for your answers.
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Well let me start out by saying that if you're willing to get back together it won't be easy.
Addressing her mixed signals, her agreeing to go on that fancy date could mean that she might be willing to trust you again. You should also know that what you did was wrong. Aside from the death in the family which she should understand.
Contrary to popular belief, you my friend just might need to friendzone yourself. It might take a while but if she REALLY is the person you wish to spend the rest of your life with you have to make her also believe that you have changed as much as you say you have. Be supportive, talk to her about the dates she's been on, maybe try to date another girl in the meantime because trust me it'll take a while.
I hope I helped :)1