He's been having a girlfriend, now fiancé, for almost a year now. But I just found this out. I had no clue. We were "supposedly" best friends. I thought we told each other everything. I have been having feelings for him for almost two years now. He knows this. I think he somewhat enjoyed knowing how I felt, even though he said he didn't feel the same way, (But, he'd never actually say it like that) Also, he never gave me time to move on from him. He'd always make sure to text/call me at some point in time, I guess to see if I would answer him, so he'd know where we stood. We have done this process of not talking then back to talking about four or five times now. Stupid, I'm aware. However, when I found out about the girlfriend/fiancé, I immediately asked him about it. His reply to me was "What makes you think you're entitled to this information?"
Today he wanted to know why I would even ask him about that. I just said that I had a bad gut feeling about it and I felt like he was hiding things from me. This was his reply:
"You have a bad "gut" feeling that our friendship wasn't right. That right there is how you lost focus of that we were just friends, when you started worrying about my life WAY to much to where it wrecks your life. I shared with you what I wanted to and the entertaining stuff, and not everything that my life entails. That's what people in relationships do. But to rest your mind I did buy my girl a ring. You're welcome and good day."
He never, EVER spoke to me like this before. I feel that since I called him out on his game, he didn't like it and he went off. I just have never felt so hurt and betrayed in my whole life. Obviously, I know what I have to do/am doing, I just needed to let it out I guess.
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Maybe it's just the way you asked him about it that it felt intrusive. Based on what you said, I assume that he did tell you that he wasn't interested granted he could have been clearer about it. I would think that he's just being defensive about it.
But other than that I don't think either of you are in the wrong, I mean you could probe but do it tactfully.