I just don't feel like I'm supported in the various things I do for work. I'm very artistic, and I have jobs in a few fields that are art-related. My husband is of the mindset that a person should settle on one job, and do that. It should be noted that he works in a job where he can determine when he works-sort of an independent contractor. He sometimes tries to say I can't do something (even if I'm being paid for it) if it interferes at all with the time he envisions leaving for work by even a few minutes. Am I wrong, or does that not seem fair?
Also, he loooves his job. So much so, that he oftentimes comes home and starts to word vomit on me about the exciting things that happened, and it sometimes drags on for a long time. Don't get me wrong, I know that allowing a spouse to 'come down' from work is a good thing to do, I just never feel the same excitement towards me. Case in point, I had to ask to be taken out the last time we went on a date.
I just overall don't feel like we're growing together in marriage the way that it seems people who have been married years and years have done. Was it the same for any of you?
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Yes, I understand how you feel. Although I never got mad about her work. If a project took extra time I never told her that she can't do it. Work is work. We have to do what we have to do.
We always made sure that we went out for dinner at least once on the weekends & a vacation at least 3 times a year.
Sometimes we take each other for granted & we do grow apart.
I was left a Dear John note. She was "tired & bored" She could have spoken up. I didn't even know this. I would have been willing to work on some of her feelings. Apparently she didn't want that. I worked a lot BUT that's how she got to live in the house she did & drive the kind of car that she did.