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Speculating her somewhat but some thoughts. You guys are going to be inextricably wound together for a long time because you have a child together... it's not like a normal relationship where you "get to" break it off and never be involved with the person again - having a baby makes you permanently involved with someone and so it can be really difficult if you aren't getting along, like feeling trapped. It sounds to me like he's running away from fatherhood, or perhaps it is the combination of the idea of facing fatherhood with a woman for which he sees the relationship has deteriorated. I wouldn't say 'no contact' because you have a child together so you're both going to need to be mature and think about what is best for the baby etc. at all times (e. g. he would surely still like to be there when it's born, and you WILL need help, and a baby benefits from more involved parents than fewer providing they aren't fighting). In any case, the real question is if you want him around long-term as the major partner or if you want to find a new 'father' or just try stay single for a while. My suggestion is don't break contact but don't push the issue either - he needs some distance to think about things and take it slowly/easily so he's not overwhelmed - let him know he can be as involved (or not) as he wants to be and that if he wants he can be there when she's born etc., or something like that. If the pressure of the responsibility is off and he sees these special moments the idea may grow on him. That is assuming you love him.
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