Would you only date or would you commit to a serious relationship and marry a divorced person?
Why or why not?
Are you divorced?
Has anyone been involved romantically with a divorced person?
Would the answer change depending on whether the person had kids or not?
My boyfriend is upper mid 30s and I'm a graduate student in my 20s. I met him on a dating app he was one of the only guys who seemed to genuinely want a relationship and not a hookup. Plus I liked his personality and he was cute and we hit it off so even though he was a bit older than I wanted I decided to chance it.
On the app it doesn't ask for relationship status. I knew he was single now but I just assumed he was a bachelor.
After a few dates he told me he was divorced a few years ago but doesn't have kids. At first I was shocked and a little freaked out because I haven't even been in relationships over a year let alone married.
But he is genuinely a good guy with a good character and treats me well and since there's no kids his ex isn't in his life and there's no complications or things tying him down... and he still wants his own family and would remarry. So I decided it's ok.
People also told me at his age I shouldn't be surprised he was married before. I just wasn't expecting it.
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I wouldn't. If they fucked up their other relationship then they are bound to fuck up the new one. Marriage is supposed to be a lasting bond. Not just something you can throw away because "I was young and pressured into it."
All these folks keep giving you politically correct advice about how mistakes are made... not this kind of mistake. You're lucky you found a guy who doesn't have any previous kids; that's his saving grace. I still wouldn't date a married chick because:
1) She chose badly
2) She didn't know how to work through it
3) How serious does she take marriage? To just throw it away like that? I don't want to be thrown away, ever.
I'm not saying they are bad ppl. just unsuitable for marriage.0