Me and my sons father were together for six years. In the beginning of our relationship he cheated on me and got the girl pregnant, I forgave him and have been with him ever since. We have a three year old together who he has seen everyday of his life. He recently got in trouble with the law and ever since we have been arguing. A week ago he got drunk and cheated on me with the same girl from the beginning. He left me and my son and told me he doesn't want anything to do with me. He hasn't seen my son since nor has he called to ask about him. I am heartbroken and just don't understand how someone could do this after six years. I cry everyday and I have became depressed and have anxiety. Any suggestions on how to get through this and keep my son from being hurt? Thanks
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Im not sure you can really get your son through this with out being hurt. You might be able to mitigate the damage, but in the end your son is going to want closure of his own. Other than telling him his dad left, went away, or died you son is going to want to know why his dad left him. he will also possibly blame himself for it. That he is the reason your ex left.
Honestly I have to think that this is going to be a situation where no matter how you handle it there is going to be issues. Your ex wants nothing to do with being a father to his son, which means your ex is not man enough to take responsibility for his own kids. Also he got in trouble with the law? do you really want that kind of example for your child to begin with?
Honestly you are just going to have to talk to your son and make sure he understands that his dad isn't coming back. If you are smart you will file so that you have sole custody of the child, and that his father has no visitation, or limited visitation and get child support to make sure that your child is taken care of. Other wise all you are doing is creating a recipe for disaster.1