As we all know, sometimes love is not enough to keep people together. My BF and I broke up because of distance and because our lives are headed in vastly different directions - there is no realistic future for us. We still care deeply for each other but he's having a hard time letting me go, he wants to stay friends. This is very painful-how do I get over this?
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Have realistic expectations. As there is no magic potion to speed up the healing process. It takes a great of amount of time and patience to recover fully from a breakup with someone who've meant much to you. Time alone, time dwell, time to let go emotionally, and time to transition.
Also, accept the situation for what is, no matter how distorted the picture becomes at times, you guys are simply not compatible, for whatever reason. That, and the suggestions mentioned by the others.
As for dealing with your guy, I read somewhere that going absolute no-contact can be less effective than remaining in contact. The sudden, silent loss of someone important can actually perpetuate the pain of a breakup. And since the breakup was amicable, I suggest, that you at least consider a gradual pullback, if possible.
If not for you, then do it just to help him out.0