Is being friends with an ex really nessecary? I mean, eventually maybe someday I might want to befriend him... but I actually would rather not. So why do I personally feel guilty for deleting him from facebook, twitter, etc,
Most Helpful Guy
Because you always needed him more than he needed you. Part of breaking up, is having no communication with your ex and simply moving on to other things in life. You feel bad because your the good one here with the feelings for him. He's the one that ruin his chance with you, but he knows that you still want to stay in touch one way or another. At the end its your choice, but remember ms, be very cautious with this.
Most Helpful Girl
I have been in your shoes in a way worse situation I cut my ex off and he was suicidal and very dependent on me but I realized that he was mind fucking me and using his depression to keep me around but I could not save him nor could I be dragged down anymore not to mention he did not appreciate me trying to be friends with me after our breakup he felt like he had some power and I took it back. I had to accept that whatever could happen after cutting him off was not my fault. I tried to hang in ther but my own life felt threatened while he would be threatening his own life. Letting go is hard I still cared about him even though he was sick and twisted I knew he needed help but there was nothing I could do. I told his mother about his suicidal thoughts she said she would get him help but I think she took that with a grain of salt. Many months later his new gf found me on Facebook asking for advice because she was afraid of him. He sucked her just like he did me and she was afraid and felt bad because she wanted to be there for him but I told her run for the ills. Turns out he was planning on trying to go to her house to hurt her I happen to be checking his Twitter and he was tweeting about it. I contacted her and she got a restraining order on him. My ex was a psycho but even if he was not I don't think its healthy holding on to someone staying friends you might not ever truly get over them and move on. Maturity is moving on and its ok to feel bad but its necessary for the both of you to heal.